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So I was on this website where you kinda find dates. Yes I am of the age. But they usually ask if I'm talking to anyone else. Which I always deny. I am currently "talking" to around 5 guys. Is it wrong to keep my options open or should I just choose one and ditch the others. The problem with that is that I'm not sure exactly who I want to stick with and if it'll be worth it. Because what if i change my mind and then it will be too late to take things back. :/ help..

Its great that you are open, you dont know who these people really are yet and so to make a decision and just choose one could end up in a bad relationship. When you are ready and have found the person you want to try and get serious with, than you can stop getting to know other men, but if you arent serious with anyone than it is your perogative to go ahead and get to know many people. If a guy can't accept that than maybe he needs to step his game up and prove he is better than the others or leave if her cant handle it. If guys you are speaking to are not keen on the idea of you talking to others than they are probably over protective and jealous and that would be the first sign that they may not be right for you. Dont go into detail about talking to other men but you dont need to hide it either. Good Luck finding Mr.Right

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How do I get over the one that I love even though I was the one who broke it off. We were together for 4 1/2 yrs. I was tired of the binge drinking and the kids running the house. I never had a say in discipline or ne thing. They are not my kids but we were a family. I still love her and she is with someone. She says she still loves me but wants to give her current relationship a try. We have been broke up for 3 months andshe is all I think about. HELP. I want to heal.

Its hard to get over someone you love and there will probably always be a place in your heart for her, but you need to remember why you broke it off. The situation you were in may of been causing harm to you emotionally and you made the right decision for yourself. Now that you have been away for a while and the feelings you were feeling befor due to the drinking and kids are gone all you can remember is the love you have for her. Try to do things you used to enjoy doing by yourself or with friends(movies, games excercise-which is actually a natural anti-depressent) If you have lost contact with your friends, as that is what tends to happen during a serious relationship, try and rekindle old friendships. We are fortunate to have modern networking sites such as facebook and maybe you can get into touch with old friends. You will definatly make new friends as you get your own single life into gear again. We tend to loose ourselves when we are so into other people and I am confident that if you find your hobbies and interests again you will begin to start feeling love for yourself and even though you may still love her, that feeling wont be so dominant as you will be keeping yourself busy and feeling all these new emotions for new friends or new found interests. Good Luck and stay strong!

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what do I need to bring to my (first) birth control appointment? I plan on getting examined, but I don't know what to bring. I know it depends on my health insurance, but I have a card with my family plan's number on it. should I bring cash? how much?

Every clinic has the ability to charge different amounts, you may be covered by a health insurance plan, it also varies where you live as there are different health plans. Call the clinic you will be going to, they should be able to answer all your questions. If they dont answer, leave a detailed message, someone should be able to assist you.

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She's crying because she had a nightmare last night that her husband didn't love her anymore. She's been married to him for 10 years and they love each other very much. But she's scared to talk to him. I hate seeing her so sad. She's 9 months pregnant too. Due to have their first baby next week. What can I do to make her feel better ?

Well since she is pregnant Im going to say her hormone levels are probably through the roof and what she is feeling is probably alot of worry/stress and she may be self-conscience. I'm not sure how long you have known her but try and remind her of the good times and the times her husband has proved to her his love, if she isnt ready to speak to him about it thats fine but she should be open with him sooner rather than later because he really is the only one that can tell her that he does love her and wants to have a reat future with her. Remind her that it was just a dreama and remind her that her baby needs her to be relaxed and happy and brought into a happy enviroment. Tell her that she needs to remember they are married and having a baby which will probably be the happiest time of her life. Congratulations to her by the way :)

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my nipples are not inverted but its like a scab and its there for the longest while its really bad.....what can i do?

Go see your doctor, you may of hurt yourself but if you are worried about just have a professional check it out and maybe they can give you an ointment or something to soothe it.

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Okay so I'm a Sophomore and I've always had trouble with math..since 3rd grade. Usually I just mess up on the small things, but still.

My mother made me take Integrated math, like I did last year and I'm stuck with all the freshmen and it just makes me feel self- conscious (Which I already am in general)

I'm in Advanced English and Global and I just feel really depressed..I go to tutoring ever Wednesday..and I feel even more self conscious since my tutor I had since 3rd grade had to move back to Florida since her mother had a seizure of some sort ;/ I miss her a lot. I write to her, but it's not the same -.-

Any advice? I hate feeling the way I do.

First off I want to let you know math isn't my strong suit either, but noone can be great at everything we are not super human beings. You may be trying very hard and realize things still don't make sense and that's ok because it's natural for someone not to be great at something just like some people are really creative and others aren't no matter how much training they get. Don't be self conscious, walk with confidence, remember you are EXCEPTIONALLY GREAT at English and that is something to be proud off (i have trouble with English and math, I'm more hands on ) you will get to know your new tutor and you will get comfortable with math , you may not end up majoring in math but it's ok because your great marks in English will make up for that. Don't be too hard on yourself, And remember you know so much more than the freshmen in your class, there are many people who repeat courses and you have to understand that it's ok and remember all the things you are good at and excel at. Good luck!

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Okay well i am 14 yrs old i am an 8th grader and i love a guy. yah sounds simple but its not.here it goes i need help.

Okay well in february i met this guy and we i guess hit it off and we went out for like two days we didn't know each other so it was stupid.anyhoo he live(d) up the street from me so every weekend we would hang out he would touch my boobs and butt and stuff and i kinda really liked it anyway,,anyway he is a big player but really sweet and always could put a smile on my face anyway we liked each other on and off lots of times over this year of knowing each other. anyway he moved so we don't hang anymore i don't see him anymore i should just move on? I cant i love him so much nobody knows so what exactly should i do? get over him..how?

I know you love this guy and had a good time with him but you said it yourself..he is a player..your in 8th grade go easy on yourself you ahve such a long way ahead of you....its ok if you dont like anybody right now just dont waste so much time thinking about this guy...hang out wiht friends try not to talk about him and slowly but surely he will get off your mind...Good Luck!

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I am thinking of getting a helix piercing but I am afraid it will be extremely painful for some reason.

How painful is it to get a helix piercing done?

Thank you!

Oh, and how much does it hurt after it is done like when it is healing? And how long does it take to heal? You can answer if you just know one of the things too. :)

I havnt gotten one but watch some videos on youtube the majority of them say it hurt but it doesnt look like hey are in too much pain.

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I have a group interview for Victoria's Secret (applied for a seasonal job) this week.

Has anyone interviewed there? What should I expect? Anything would be helpful.

I used to work for a lengerie company. they are interested in customer service and past experiences. What will you do if you see someone steal? Why you are right for the job. group interviews arent a big deal, just make sure you try to be the first to answer as many questions as you can. this is your first interview, make a good impression. Everyone there is going to want to answer the best answer, so if you answer frist you will have the best answer becasue odds are everyone else will likely repeat what you said. Good luck!

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Okay. So, I'm 18/f and I want to tell my mom that I recently lost my virginity. If you must know - I'm not technically "with" the guy, but we've been talking for a little while, but she hasn't met him yet. Also, I don't regret it.
My mom & I are fairly close and she knows most things that go on in my life, I just don't know how to bring it up to her because I don't know how she will react. It's not that I anticipate problems with it, I just want to have her behind me and aware of what's going on in case anything unexpected happens. Any positive advice would be wonderful.

Well i give you props for being honest and close with your mother. I'm not sure how you normally talk about serious things with her, some people sit down at dinner, others go out to ease off any tension, some people just get home and Blurt it out, w/e your way is with her, do that. Tell her that you want to always be honest with her and that your relationship means alot to you. let her know that you were seeing a guy and tell her that you guys "did it" or "had sex" whatever the words you want to use. Make sure she knows you protected yourself and that even though you are not dating him you do not regret it. make sure she knows that you are not planning on sleeping around but that your first time was an experience you were ready to handle and glad that you did becasue you learned from it. most importantly be honest and hopefully everyone will be open minded about this! good luck!

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i have had pain in my breasts for two days now and im scared of what it might be i am 14 and have no sexual activity but i was in the shower and elboed it and since then the last two days have been pain in my left breast it doesnt hurt when i raise my arm but its an on and off pain if im using a bra or lying on my stomach or, its seems to be when the breast hangs and i may be overreacting and its in the center of the nipple and it hurts when i push down on it and hit the bone..im ot sure and worried so what could it be??

Sorry im replying so late, Since you elboed it it may be a bruise or something. It is good that you are aware of changes in your body. If its still painfull see a doctor so they can fully examine it and see if it is just a bruise. i wouldnt worry too muhc about ti. take care!

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well im 16 and i um like this guy and he is 20 and im wondering is that a big age diffrence

Its not about the years inbetween. Its about how much you have growna nd he ahs grown. You may not know it now, but you are not done growing emotionally mentally or physically. He is very close to being there. If you were 21 and he were 25 than that would be fine because you will both be on the same level. Even if you think your on the same level as him now you wont be in 4 or 5 years and your relationship rather good or bad will be suffering. So enjoy being young and wait. If in 5 years you and him are still single and you still talk, than get to know him. But not right now its too early!

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17/F

While I was dating my boyfriend (beginning of the school year), I became really close with one of my guy friends, who became one of my best friends. It got to the point where, as my relationship with my boyfriend came to an end, I really fell for him, HARD. He left his date at homecoming to dance with me the whole night (they went as friends so she was okay with it) and I continued to have the biggest crush on him.

However, for the past couple of months it has gotten really weird. We can't be alone together without it being awkward, or quiet. We went snowboarding with some friends and he BEGGED me to sit with him on the ski lift, but when I did he wouldn't really talk to me. It's gotten to the point where, although my friends think he has interest in me, I think I'm doing something wrong?

How do I fix my relationship with him? I miss being able to talk to him about everything, and when I try to bring up how we used to be, he just nods and agrees but doesn't really seem to notice/care.

He is probably so quiet because he doesnt know if he should react to his feelings. your doing anything wrong, if you were he wouldnt want to sit with you to begin with. i say you talk to him and try to act flirty with him to see if you responds to your actions. Hint to him that you think hes attractive and that you may like him. If you comews out and tells he doesnt feel the same you will be embaressed but atleast you will know! And if he says he feels something for you than there will be no reason to be so quiet with e/o. Btw if you guys get together and things dont work out, try to stay friends. Try to end it on a good and mutual note. If you guys can act like adults everything should work out for the best. Good luck1

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15/f
lately i've noticed i have pain in my left breast near the top of it. it used to be only when i moved my arm above my head but now it hurts on its own and its getting really painful. theres no sign of bruising or injury, and it isnt sex related. i have a male doctor that i dont want to see and i dont have a gyno. its getting unbearable. what do i do?

I understand that you dont want to visit your male doctor, but you need to see someone so go to a walk in clinic atleast so someone can take a look at it, than go find yourself a gyno!

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Okay, so my friends all call me a player. Mostly beacuse I can never stay with a guy for to long, but heres the thing. I started talking to this kid, joe, and i think im really starting to fall for him. its just wierd cause im not used to being this attachted to someone.. usually when i start to get attatched, i end up making up some excuse and leave. I really dont want to do it, it just happens.. How can i overcome being a "player" and give this kid a chance ?

please hellp me, thankkkks (:

You ditch guys because you are afraid of commitment and afraid of where the relationship may lead you. I say go for it, get to know him, if he is really special you will stay with him! Dont see him ALL the time cuz you might get sick of him. Go out with friends instead of just the 2 of you so you can get to know him better and not rush into anything too intimate. And if you do start dating him don't rush things, because you might get scared and leave him adn end up regretting it. Just take things slow and remember that everything happends for a reason so if you do end up leaving this guy its ok! Cuz there will be many other men. I just ask that you treat him the way you want to be treated because KARMA is a B*tch and you dont want it coming back to btie you...lol....Take care hun. Hope all goes well for you!

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Hi,
I have a pair of Steve Madden suede boots (the style is bonanza, if that helps at all), and I got salt stains on them, like from the salt used to melt snow in the winter.
What would be the best way to clean them without damaging the fabric? I've heard of using a mixture of vinegar and water, but I'm a little nervous about the vinegar damaging the suede.

Thank you!
-Danielle

Buy suede cleaner, i have a pair of suede timberland boots and they sell a suede eraser that helps. Or after you clean them really well spray them with a protector so that if salt gets on them again it will atleast be easier to clean!

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so i wax the hair at my vagina at home, i cant afford to go to a beauty parlour.. Sadly. So i wax at home and i get the result but the after effects are terrible! I get all itchy on my mound and sometimes have ingrown hairs, or little pimples, like redish bumps.. Really strange. And its itchy.. I dont know what to do or what i did wrong!! Please help..

I have never waxed myself because I know I will probably do it wrong, but the reaction you are getting an be that your skin is sensitive to the wax. It can also mean that you are pulling the wrong way. There is a certain way to wax tahst why people go to school for it, because you are ripping the hairs out the wrong way they grow the wrong way resulting in ingrown hairs. I would suggest just waxing your bikini line and shaving if this reaction if really bothering you. Or you can try different products that might help you. Or you can wax less so you can go do it professionally. Hope I helped, take Care!

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I am a 19 yr old girl. My major conern, my period. To get straight to the point. It comes when it wants, sometimes it will skip a month, or two. I am overallly concerned. This has been happening since i was probably.. 16-17 of age. I finally went to get a pap smear at age 18 (in Feb of 08) and I have another apt. scheduled for this Feb. of 09 and my last apt in 08 they said nothing was wrong and everything was completely normal and i had nothing to worry about. Although i had just gotten my period 3 weeks before i went in there so i thought it was regulating.. My mother says its because I have been off and on and off and on again and now off birth control so its got everything all funky.. my questions..


1) Shouldn't i be regulating?
2) Should I be worried?
-If so, what could it be?
3) Do I have to bring it to their attention, I will this time, in order for them to know if something is wrong or not? Or would they (tests) recognize something was wrong with or without me telling them that my period is irregular?
4) Anybody else or know somebody with a similiar situation?
5) Could I still have kids?!

If you do not bring it to your doctors attention they will not know what to test you for. A pap smear tests for atypical cells. If you tell them what is wrong then maybe they can test you for something else. I agree with your mother, being off and on of birth control does effect your regularity. As of if you can get pregnant you need to do a fertility test to know. Don't be worried, it will cause you stress and that will result in more irregularity in your period. Just relax and take it day by day, tell your doctor everything, even if it doesnt seem like its wrong, if you think its irregular tell your doctor. When my period was ireegular they switched my BC to a higher dose of hormones. Hope I helped and Good Luck.

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so this might sound stupid but liek pornstars have perfect penises lol so when people tell me that no 2 penises are the same i dont bleave them and i went to a doctor in the past and he said that if i want 2 get it fixed it'll require surgery and i might feel pain 4 about a month or 2

Well models look perfect too. Whoever directs and produces pornos are not going to sell their product as much if the guys penis is too thin, or too small. In their eyes bigger is better and that is not always the case. If you think it is a big problem you may consider surgery. But look into all the risks and side effects before doing anything. You penis is very sensitive and important, and even though doctors are professionals you wouldnt want anything bad to happen. If it is really bringing you down than you may consider it, but if it were me I would wait, if it isnt a problem in the future with your partner than you don`t necesarily have to change it.

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We know we are not right for each other. There is a tremendous amount of tension and resistance to connect on his part because he is afraid of getting hurt.

He is bipolar on meds, 13 years older, jobless, broke and struggling with erectile dysfunction. I am a single mom with a six years old daughter, working professional who makes a good living supporting me and my daughter.

He is only interested in having sex with me when we meet, he seldom calls me and if he does, he hangs up after one ring, expecting me to call him back.

He tells me he's seeing other girls and then I would be hurt and then he says he was only making it up to test me. He's been testing me for over one and a half years now. I don't feel any progress in his trust level. I am tired of proving myself.

I don't think I have ever connected in such a way with someone before. The connection is deep, I can read his mind and his feelings from the first date. I have never feel that way with anyone before in my life. He's the first.

I just dumped him because of his poor treatment towards me. Plus, I really think he's not into reconnecting anymore after our last breakup which was in april. Ok, this is like the 5th or 6th time, but whenever he calls again...I always go running back. Help me. I want to stop. Those are the only times he calls me.

I need a real boyfriend, a normal one who doesn't play with my mind and emotions like him who feels like he has to in order to feel good about himself. Oh yes, he said:" F*ck, I love you ok?" last week, because he asked me to go over to see him and I said I would only do it if he says I love you.

He said I love you once before and that was in 2007 summer. He said that one unexpectedly over the phone on his own.

Any suggestion will be much appreciated.

Now i`m not sure if his actions are a result of his Bipolar condition but the way he treats you is not healthy for you or you child. If you wont stay away from him for your own phycological ell being do it for your daughter. I say, do not return his calls. Let him know why you left and why you are not going back. let him know you know someone who will return the feelings you feel for him. Tell him it is a two way street and you deserve to have him treat you the way you treat him. I understand that you love hi and that you connect with him but don`t let him put you down. He is making you feel worthless. You are a wonderful mother who can clearly live happy independently. Go out and meet other people, but don`t fall for the same type of man. After he finishes his degree maybe he will realise what he will realise what he lost.
I would like to tell you a story. My father recently left my mother, she is 51 he is 69. She alwasy said she stayed with him for us, they never showed each other affection and the would constantly put each otehr down. My father didnt like my mother side of the family and so she stopped visiting and felt she was trapped with him. Finally for some reason he left him. She was devastated. After being with the same man and picking him up everytime he fell he up and goes. She is in so much financial trouble but now that she knows really what it is like to be without him she will never go back. and he has come back asking to return. She says she loved him but he is not worth the pain he put her through.
Think about your future, think about all the times he makes you cry or yells or disrespects you, is that the kind of man you want to live the rest of your life with. Is that the kind of father figure you want your daughter to be around. Think about your future and do what is right. he has nothing to offer you from what i have heard so just be strong, and dont go back.

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