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hi, i read one of your answers to someone. i was going out with my exboyfriend for 6 months and then we broke up and 6 moths later we got back together. we were going out for 14 months and we broke up about a month ago. i really want him back and its so hard to get over him we were still hooking up because i felt like if i did things might get better. but now things are worse because we got into a big arguement cause i said something to this one girl, he says that he doesnt trust me. all i want is him & ive been sooo unhappy. i honeslty have not had one somewhat happy day since me and him broke up. what should i do to either get him back or to get over him. (link)
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Hey, i say if he makes you so happy, you should try again. Try to reassure him, he can trust you. Tell him how he makes you feel. But if you guys keep breaking up, maybe then it'll be time to try and move on.. It would be hard I know, but sometimes it's the best thing, it may feel like there's no way you will be able to move on, but I promise it does get easier. I wish you luck. Message me if you have any more questions. I hope this helped a little.
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18 years old female
i would like to know if you think he is joking or not, please dont judge me or tell me what or what not to do.
here's a little background, you must know.
i have a best friend. he is 17. we've known each other for about 3 years. he has a girlfriend of two years. i've always liked him, and im sure he knows that. this was his first girlfriend. they do everything together and i mean EVERYTHING (if you know what i mean) well im still a virgin, never done anything except madeout with two guys. me and my best friend drifted after he started going out with his girlfriend, and it really depressed me. we didnt talk or see each other for two months straight. i know im in love with this kid, and well tonight i got a text from him saying "wanna fuck" and he never randomly texts me saying that so i was like who is this! and he was like wow really, this is nick! and i was like no it's not. we havent talked for two months and you randomly text me saying that? and so i found out it really was him, i think he was kidding. but then we got on the subject of boys and i was like "i never get any action, or i havent gotten any in awhile" and he was like ha because i havent been giving any to you. and i was like i know nick why cant you give it to me and he was like i asked if you wanted to fuck and i was like hell yeah i want to fuck you. and he was like ok lets do it and i was like you wouldnt be able to handle me and he was like yeah right why not. and i was like i have a side to me you have never seen ;) and i was like im NOTHING like your girlfriend. and he was like why cant i see this side of you then and i was like oh you will, and i was like i will be better than your girlfriend ever will be and he was like ha ok!!! and then i was like ahhh i love you best friend and he was like love you tooo! and then that was it.
keep in mind that he tried fingering me and getting down my pants a few months ago but i just couldnt let him do that, because i KNOW he is not a player. but the bad thing is i have a really reallly strong feeling he isnt joking about the sex thing, and im not either. i would do it with him if he was being serious. i know its wrong, he has a girlfriend. but seriously ive waited for two years, im fed up. he is the ONLY guy i can ever see myself doing anything with.
what do you guys think? (link)
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Well he doesn't sound like a player. And if he's your best friend, why don't you talk to him. Ask him if he is serious, etc. sorry if that didn't help much. Just don't give up yet.
xoxChels
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sorry this is so long
Ok well Cole dated my cousin and I didn't put that much in there. Well they are in the on off relationship thing. He says he is done with her but she is still my cousin and still hates me for what I have done. I have realized he lied to me because she is still his number one on myspace and I still havent reached his top friends list. Well then today I was hanging out with one of my friends and I told her what had happend. Then she told me she was mad at me and told me that she has liked him for a long time. I didnt know this till today. Now everyone is saying I have been played and that he just used me. =[ so I have been stressed all day. I REALLY! REALLY! REALLY! like him. But he always plays girls by makeing out with them then leaveing them like its nothing. I have been the only one he gave anyhting to and has made out with 2 days in a row. I dont know what all this means and I dont know how to be friends with my cousin and friend again =[. I just want things to go back to normal (link)
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I totally get it. But don't feel guilty about your other friend. She has no right to be mad at you, you didn't know. You say he's your bestfriend, then why don't you confront him, say why did you kiss me? maybe he has feelings for you, but before didn't know how to express it because you were best friends... maybe he played thoughs other girls because he really wanted you, and none of them were good enough, and if your cousin and him had a relationship, and it ended thats not your fault, i know it's tough, but if you really like him, she should just be happy for you. Talk to her.. tell her your sorry but you really like him. I'm sure she will forgive you, and as for everyone else, just ignore them. I hope this helped, message me if you need more advice.
xoxChels
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Dear Columnist,
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..
Sincerely,
PeoplePerson27 (link)
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Hey, yea that's a tough one. I don't think you should be mad at her for not telling you. She probably was just embaressed, maybe she thought you would break it off, if you knew. At least she was looking out for you. Now if you had sex and she didn't tell you, that would be bad. But maybe, give her a chance to tell you. Like something like.. "Is there anything you have ever wanted to tell me, that you thought i wouldn't want to know." or something like that. Maybe she would feel more comfortable telling you. I hope that helped.
xoxChels
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I have never acted this way before but suddenly i am...I am always angry and dont know why...I already have my period this month so that cant be it...My Mom ask me whats wrong and she thinks i am lying to her when i say nothing but i really dont know what is wrong someone please explain what is going on with me! (link)
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I totally feel the same a lot of the time. Angry for no reason at all... lots of the time, for me at least, i feel like somethings always bugging me. Damn mood swings haha. If something happened, like a breakup, or something big like that, maybe that's contributing to it? I'm not totally sure. But I know for me at least, it's usually based on something that has happened in my life. Like, currently I'm in a long distance relationship, I am so in love with the guy, and it's so hard. So i've had some weird mood swings because of that. So maybe it's based on something that is happening in your life. I hope that helped.
xoxChels
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so ive liked this guy for about 2 months, and up until now hes liked me back. well we get into fights a lot, but i always end up apoligizing bc i know he wont bc hes so goddamn stubborn lol. hes a year younger than me. im a freshman and hes in 8th grade so its hard to see him a lot. he started liking me fist btw. well he used to say ily when he said goodbye, and be like please dont go, and text me 24/7 and try really hard to see me, but the last few days hes been different. like i have to text him first and he doesnt text back a lot. Also, he hasnt said ily in forever, and when i went to his football game, when he was about to leave, i was going to give him a peck, and he turned and gave me his cheek? i dont understand. like he said he really liked me adn even loved me but idkk. does he not like me anymore? adn eh told me the only reason he hasnt asked me out yet is because were in different schools and if we see each other more hes going to ask me out. what do i do? thanks (link)
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Maybe you should just talk to him about it. confront him about it. If you really like him, then tell him. Try to get him to explain why. Tell him it's bothering you that he doesn't text you much anymore.
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I just want to know..
Is it wrong or mean to not tell my friends about me having sex?
I've never been the girl that tells her friends EVERYTHING..mostly because i just feel like its MY business. My friends are very very judgemental and they'll talk about it with other people. They have HUGE mouths. So yes, i don't want them talking about my personal business with eachother. I wish i could tell them and they would just say "Okay." and not talk about it. But..even if i begged them to do that..its just not going to happen. I really love them to death but..telling them things is not something i'm comfortable with. So, really, is it wrong that i don't tell them??? (link)
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Of course not, even though they are your best friends, if they will tell everyone, you probably shouldn't say anything, unless your comfortable with it. I have a bunch of best friends, but my true best friend, honestly i wouldnt tell him, at least not right away. i love him but i think it would just be weird. So if you don't want to, then its not weird that you don't tell them. Unless you have a problem and need someone to talk to. Sex is personal. You have a right to tell or not tell people stuff... If you ever need more advice, message me.
xoxChels
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it was a week ago, my mum and dad were away for the week i was sitting watching tv when my bro came in. he sat next to me and changed the tv to porn, by accident, i told him to leave it on, it made me horney. i reached for his cock and he eventualy let me stroke it, we moved in to kiss and i started to give him a hand job he started to feel my boobs then took my shirt off and started playing with my nipples. then i pulled my thong off then slid his cock inside me and we did it all night. is this weird ? (link)
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Um, well, Personally, I wouldn't do that, if I had a brother. But I guess if you liked it, and it's not like weird now. Then you do what you like. I would watch who you tell though, cause a lot of people would be totally weirded by it. It's a society thing, you know? Just one of those things that many think aren't okay. As I said, i'm not gona lie. I wouldn't do that if I had a brother. But I'm not gona judge you, you do what you like. As to your question, is this weird... It really depends on the point of view of the person your asking, Sorry if I can't be more of a help.
xoxChels
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humm... im hoping people will rlly understand mii problem && actually know where im coming from---
i rate good.. if your advice is worth it
Okay- well i didnt expect to like this guy from WI. but i did.. and i fell hard.. but l8ly its been hard.. because im the type of person that doesnt believe in long distance relationships(prlly thinking then why did you get into it in the first place.. and i cant answer that) But anyway its hard because i wanna be loved in way of touch and emotion.. and phones and emails dont exactly fit the profile- i have cheated on him- and im just to the point where i say its not working.. but i love him soo much that i cant let go- i need him here and thats prlly why i did cheat b/c like i said i dont do distant relationships. -how do u hold on to someone soo far away. hes coming down in july- but i dont like cheating. its hard.. for anyone that knows..key question.. what do i do?...
*stephanie*
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okay, i totally understand. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, i am so in love with him. I want him here. I know how hard it is. If you really love him though, I don't think you should give up yet, If he's coming down in july, then maybe you should wait for him. It will be hard but, that's how long i have to wait too. My guy's moving a bit closer in July. It is going to be so hard. But i know i'm not going give up. He's worth me fighting. If you really love him as much as you say you do, maybe you should keep giving him a chance. Don't give up, if you want to talk, or need more advice, then message me. Cause I know exactly what you are going through.
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What do you People think about long distance relationships? do u think its a good think to meet people online in real life? im bi and im having trouble getting men in my town help?? wat should i do (link)
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It's not bad to meet people online. You just have to be careful. I met the guy i'm in love with, online. Some people just aren't careful. Long distance relationships are hard, as i've told other, the two people just have to be willing to work at it. It won't be easy. But if you can be honest with eachother, trust eachother, and are able to talk to eachother and are willing to work hard to make it work.. then it can work. Good luck.
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Im currently in Dubai and met someone through one dating site. He lives in Qatar. We write to each other everyday and he would call me every other day. The relationship is in an 'infancy' stage.
I am new to this thing and really want to know if long distance relationships really work.
Just need a little advise.
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If you really care for him, and you both are willing to work hard. Then it certainly can work. You have to be willing though, you have to have trust, be honest, and have communication. Mainly trust though. But as i said, if the two of you are willing to try your best to make it work, then im sure it will.
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does anyone belive in long distance relationships? Does anyone have advice on how to make them work? (link)
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Dont listen to people who say Long distance relationships never work. Sure.. sometimes they don't. But sometimes they do. Before you get into a long distance relationship, you have to know, and be aware that it WON'T be easy. The only way it will work, is if you are willing to work hard, You need to have complete trust, communication, trust, and hard work, is what make them work. You have to be honest with the person, you have to be able to trust that the person cares about you enough, not to do anything, and you need to be able to talk to the person. I find that a bonus of long distance relationships, is that you get to know the person, and then you can see if they care about you for more your personality then just looks. I'm currently in a long distance relationship, ive been in them before, but this time is different, i know he wouldn't hurt me. I trust him, and i'm willing to work hard to make it work. I hope it works out for you.
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Ever since I was a little girl, the only thing I've wanted was to be in love. Like the notebook love, mixed with twilight love. Its retarded I know, and I realize how unrealistic and "rare" love like that even is. But the hope of finding someone was the only thing that really kept me going, and now instead of being afraid that I won't find anyone. I dont even care anymore, I dont care if I end up alone, because it just doesn't matter anymore.
I used to say I didnt care, but secretly hoping, wondering, wishing I would find someone.
But now, I'm indifferent and I think I'm okay with it. I dont even want to be in love ever, I dont want anyone.
Is this okay? It just seems weird that something I've wanted forever, I no longer have any interest in. It just doesnt seem normal, who doesnt want love? (link)
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I felt that way too. I wanted love that could conquer all. Then, I got heartbroken. I gave up... I didn't even care anymore. I started thinking.. what's the point on finding love, if it only leads to heartbreak, and pain. But then I met someone. He made me believe in love again, He's my dream come true. I love him with all of my heart. Please don't give up on love. Not completely at least, I found out, when you are looking for love, and focus only on finding love, it becomes harder and harder to find. But when you focus on other things, then love will find you. Don't give up on love, just maybe focus on something else for a little while.
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okay, my boyfriend is turning 16. i've already gotten him a shirt, but now i'm looking for some little, inexpensie things to get him to go with it.
I need help asap!
Thanks,
May-Elle. (link)
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Why don't you through him a surprise party or something. I'm sure he would be so happy to have you through him a surprise party, with all of his and your friends there, and you to be there to, to help him celebrate.
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my boyfriend/exboyfriend... it's complicated. he cheated, lied, and lied some more. he broke up with me for "stressing him out". he's asked to get back together many times and he asked today and i decided to say yes. now i think i'm going nutso. a girl commented him on myspace saying hi stalker yesterday and today after he got home he went online and commented her saying hi and she commented back. he didn't call me then is sleeping now i guess. i told him i don't feel very important to him in a voicemail and that today is a perfect example of the things he does that make me feel that way. i don't want to be nutso. i want to not care. i am nutso for taking him back. how do i stop being nutso? i feel dying whenever something goes wrong with me and him and think about cutting myself. i don't want to do that. i need help. i don't want to dig a deeper whole and have my parents find out so i can't talk to couselors at school. (link)
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Okay, I've been there. I went out with this guy, who lied, cheated. Then I took him back, and he cheated again, we broke up. Then I think it happened one more time. Anyways I know how you feel.. I felt like it was my fault. I was wondering what i did wrong, Why he cheated on me etc. Then I got a reality check. I realised it wasn't my fault, it was his fault. He was an ass. He would call me a whore, bitch, skank, slut.. stuff like that. I took him back anyways... Don't let him do this to you. Don't keep giving him more and more chances. Because you will be the one who gets hurt. Don't hurt yourself either.. please.. He made the mistake, he hurt you, don't let him win.
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i have classes with my ex boyfriend and hes always flirting with other girls, and i get so sad to the point where i feel like im about to start crying in class. what can i do to get over it. (link)
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Just ignore him. He's just trying to make you jelous. Don't let him get the best of you. If you do then you let him win. Don't let him win. You should just try to move on. I know it's hard, and it's probably going to take time. But if you need advice, message me. But honestly I think you should just ignore him.
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I am 17 years old and I'm seriously considering suicide. I've already been through some tough times with my ex-girlfriend, we had so many things planned out for the future and she left me for her ex. I found another girl I like but she's been playing games with me and I'm just sick of everything. Part of the reason I want to do this is because I get jealous very easily, so when I see her flirting with someone else it really upsets me. Now I'm only a Junior in high school, but I've been through alot of adult situations. I just want to know the quickest, easiest way to do it. I would appreciate advice on how to handle the situation properly though if anyone has it, thank you. (link)
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I'm sorry about what happend with your ex and stuff... But honestly suicide won't do anything. If you commit suicide, then you give up the chance of finding a love that lasts. Finding someone you spend the rest of your life with. You say you and your ex had so many things planned for the future. Now just think about how you felt when you were with her. Now imagine never feeling that again. If you commit suicide then you won't feel that again, sure you won't feel the pain, but if you never feel the pain, then you will never feel the happiness love can bring. Please don't give up. Just try and get through this. If you need anymore advice, message me.
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Me and my ex when we were together were just so perfect together we both just tottallyyy fell in love with eachother. At the end of our relationship we just started fighting alot because I wasnt sure what I wanted. All my friends were turning 18 and going out and I just wanted to do that to, soo I started fighting with him over stuff that I used to be okay with, like not going out with out him and so on. So we had a huge blow out and broke up. We both said some pretty unforgivable stuff to eachother. I tried to get him back but he just said he wasnt meant for a girlfriend. He drinks so much now and goes out so much just is totally lost. About 2 months ago I met someone else and we started dating. My ex will call dave, dave started coming back to me wanting to hang out texting me all the time, I didnt wanna miss out on a good thing with the new guy so I told "dave" I couldnt talk to him anymore. Well being in the relationship with the new guy I found myself doing nothing but thinking about "dave". So we broke up and Dave just acts as though he wants nothing to do with me. I cant stop thinking about him still. I know he wants to be back with me but me and him are just soo stubborn its like we compete on who doesnt care the most. and I hate it. I feel like its a continuous game that I dont know what to do or how to stop. Please give me some advice on either how to get over this bullcrap, or get my boy back... (link)
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That's tough, Well why don't you just talk to him. It seems like you really love him. So tell him. Tell him how you feel. Maybe he's waiting for you to tell him. Maybe he's just scared. It's weird to think, but guys get scared of relationships just as much as we do. He probably really loves you, you should just tell him how you feel. If it works out great. If not, then at least you gave it a chance, and told him the truth. I hope that helps a little.
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why does everybody say suicide is not the answer? that's all you say! suicide is not the answer.. suicide is not the answer.. that's not a good enough reason for me.
why the f-k not?? (link)
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I know when people say "Suicide is not the answer" Its not enough. It doesnt show you why. Lots of people say that, but they don't know the feeling. My friend was about to commit suicide, he tried once, he threatened to. The reason that you shouldn't commit suicide is because, it may seem like the easy way out, but what about everyone you leave behind, Your time here matters. You may not think it, but it does. One person can change lives. It's true, even the simplist little thing, can change a life. When my friend told me he almost killed himself, I didn't know what to say, So I wrote him this...
Life is tough, but we... as screwed up as it sounds, have it pretty good
You think there is no point, no reason to wake up in the morning
No more reasons to keep trying
But just think of all the children going to sleep at night and wondering if they will live to see another day
Waking up and getting ready to fight life, to fight for there own lives and the lives of those they love
Think about them and ask why you shouldnt give up
Life has a point, it just takes time to find
Show the kids with no hope, that there is a reason to keep fighting
You are not weak
You just can't find the strength to keep going.
But you will find that strength again, it may take longer then you would like, but it's still there
If a child can get up every morning and fight life for a chance at having a future, fight to save there little brothers or sisters.
You can get up and fight for a chance of happiness.
For now you have the choice on whether or not you see tomorrow.
But don't take that for granted, cause life doesnt give second chances.
You get the life you live, you just have to make the best out of that life
You have people who love you... Don't forget who those people are.
Because as much of a gift life is... you never know when you may lose someone you care about.
Dont give up on life, don't give up on me.
I will never give up on you.
I hope that helped
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My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship but we still want to attempt to be like the normal couple and go on a "date" although we are near each other. I was thinking just look up a movie on youtube because there are loads on there then we could watch it together. Do you have any other date ideas?
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My boyfriend and are in a long distance relationship too. It's tough, we try to have those kind of dates to. We sometimes watch movies together, or both of us go on webcam and talk on the phone, then it's like you are together. You could try playing games on msn. If I think of something else i will tell you. Sorry, it's not much, but its a start. If you guys wanted to watch movies together. I usually use this site, http://www.watch-movies.net/ Hope that helped.
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