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I don’t like my new neighbor
I’ve been living at my current apartment for 2 years and my lease isn’t up until next year. The last two people who have moved in are loud. Granted the walls are thin. One issue I had was my neighbor would allow his alarm to go off and it would wake me up at 4 in the morning. I told the property manager and they talk to him about. But, I started sleeping in my living room because he would talk and I could here him and his tv would be up. So I started sleeping in my living room. This new person who is a female kept me up all til midnight talking with her friend. Based on her conversation, she seems toxic and no one I want to be around. It’s upsetting because I’m nice and too myself and plus I just want peace. I’m like why do I have to go through this. This is the 2nd floor I would think it’d be people who are quieter. Plus, they’re older than me so I feel they should know to be consider. Now, I’m going back to sleeping in my room because I don’t want to hear her all night.
How do I deal with this? I should move but what can I do in the meanwhile?
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I stayed with a daughter after birth of her first child and her upstairs neighbors were always banging on the door complaining the TV was too loud. I asked them to come in after several times and asked them if they thought our TV was playing too loud, They said it wasn't but they could still hear it so I told them, the walls ceiling floor are too hin. If we make the TV any less on volume we would not be able to hear it and they agreed and they stopped complaining but they didn't move. Most likely its as said, a combo of the thin walls and perhaps her playing things too loud. You said NEW neighbor so wondering how the old neighbor was. If they weren't too noisy. I wonder if your neighbor might have a hearing disability and not know it, such as what happens when getting older or born with and not caught earlier because if they need the alarm so loud you can hear it, maybe that's the issue. If aware of it, they may not be able to afford hearing aids. I am 62 and starting to realize that ones heariang does start to go. I already can't hear conversation if there is any background noise. There's no way to know. You can ask the manager to check out whats going on and say something or you can try to meet and talk with neighbor, have them turn on their music or TC to usual level and come with you to your apartment to see if she can hear her own music. She needs to know how loud sounds from her apartment are. She may be totally unaware of thin walls and sound transferring easily. In meanwhile, maybe you'll find the foam ear plugs help diminish sound a bit. I use them sometimes when hubbys snoring gets too loud and it diminishes but doesn't get rid of sound, although he's right next to me. So sound from her apt. may not be heard using ear plugs. Also at night, you can use a white noise machine and you get used to hearing that and its calming for most and if its close to you, you should hear just that. However if elderly, the neighbor may not be able to do anything about the noise and it may be the only way they can hear. You could ask the manager to let you know of another 2nd floor apt that comes available and move in your complex if you really like the location and cost. Or look for a new place to rent. If its age related, there's not much that can solve the issue. I watch TV and movies on line and use ear plugs but other than that, everything has to be a bit louder than it was when I was a teen, a young mom or even middle age. Hearing began to get noticely worse in last 5 years so even if younger but hearing damage due to a job or something else.
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I'm sorry you are in this difficult living situation, not of your own making. It sounds quite serious, in terms of disrupting your peace, rest and quietude.
Even if your manager speaks to your neighbors, even if he takes greater steps, the problem isn't only them: its the building construction that prevents you from having quiet privacy in your own home.
I would do two things: press upon your manager once again, and as many times needed , that this is an intolerable situation. IF the neighbors are in violation of the rules, they could be evicted unless they shape up.
But if things don't change for the better, I would look into the conditions under which you can end your lease early and move out. You will never be able to fix how the building is constructed.
Another alternative might be to remain in the building, but move to a different apartment.
You shouldn't have to put up with sleeping in yourliving room, hearing alarms go off, etc. And these problems just might allow you to be let out of your lease agreement.
You may need to enlist outside help from a renters' group or another city housing authority, if your manager or the owners aren't cooperative.
Good luck and good wishes! I hope you are able to resolve this quickly! ~Dr. Stephanie
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Honestly I didn't realize how me listening to music or talking on the phone was affecting my neighbors. She eneded up writing a note on my door explaining kindly that I was keeping her up at night and she let me know her work schedule so that I can keep an open mind. So I did cut her some slack.. but than she started to just complain about me vacuuming in the morning washing dishes and those nice notes I started to read them as if she. Was talking crap lol. I would say stop by let them know if your shy leave a friendly note.
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