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Boss is being harsh
I'm 27/f. I feel like my boss is nit-picking at everything I do. I started working at a store about a month ago, and this is not my first job in retail. I worked in another store for about 5 years, and then I took some time off when I had a baby. Then right after that the pandemic hit, and I wasn't able to return to my old job. It took a while to find a new job, and I'm grateful that I did. But I noticed that my boss is especially hard on me because he said I have a lot of experience. For example, some of the other workers still don't know where some of the products are even though they've been working there for years, but yet he yelled at me just after one week because I couldn't find something. I tried not to take it personally, but then one day he yelled at me in front of my co-workers and the customers just because I asked him a question about the register. It was embarrassing and I really don't think I deserved that. I've been out of work for two years so I'm doing my best, and the register here is very different from what I'm used to. When I asked about my performance he said that I'm doing very well and he has no problem with me, but then if I make one little mistake he gets an attitude and makes me feel like I'm stupid. I wasn't sure if he realized he was doing this, so I told him that the way he talks to me sometimes sounds very harsh, and that I'm doing my best to learn things as fast as I can. He said I'm being too sensitive and that if I don't like it I can leave. I don't know what to do. It seems like he has two personalities sometimes. I'm starting to dread going to work because I'm worried that I might do something wrong again. I feel anxious and I haven't been able to sleep the past few nights. Should I quit and try to find another job?
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This is not the job for you. Whatever his issues are, your boss is not going to change and he must be terribly uncomfortable to work for.
Don't blame yourself in any way. If I were you, I'd try to keep the job, if you need one , but continue to job hunt until you find a better replacement.
Keep in mind that it isn't only the income you'll need, but that people appear more employable when they're already working.
Good luck!
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If you are questioning whether or not this is the right place for you than odds are it isn't and you need to trust that gut feeling. Yes, you need work and it's a pandemic but it's no to continuing to deal with this guy who is an asshole. You're going to find a lot of people you work for will be like him more often than not treating people working for minimum wages.
What you can do is call human resources at head office and in strict tell them what he's doing and your concerns that he's making the workplace into an extremely toxic environment that you find threatening. I'm sure others do as well.
As far as his take it or leave it approach it's bullying and he's so far gotten away with it. He's never had anyone stand up to him. You need to go through the proper channels to do just that.
After doing so I would move on unless he gets canned. You're miserable there and have skills others need that you can apply to a place that really needs you and you feel secure in.
I know you need the cash but you also need respect. I sure hope that you'll speak out before moving on to something better so you can prevent other people from having to work with him under unpleasant conditions just to survive during a pandemic. He needs his ass kicked and it hasn't happened yet. That's the only way people like this change when confronted with behaviour by superiors.
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You deserve better than this. If he isn't being compassionate even when you're explaining it to him then he's probably being harsh to you on purpose because if he was doing that without realising he would have apologised when you told him. Maybe you should try give it another couple of weeks to see if anything improves and if not search for another job while staying in your current one until you get given another role. You could probably start that process now actually as clearly it's affecting your mental health. I hope things get better for you.
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