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My first time asking for advice. Hello, can you help me?
Hello,i hope the person who'll read this is having a good day. I just picked this category because what I need advice for, I don't know what category it belongs in. I'm a 54 filipina, married my American husband last year of june. Unfortunately we have not filed for my petition because we are sadly currently broke. I've been with him for almost 4 years, we met online & because I have a U.S. visa, we both decided to be together. From the start our relationship has been tested. We do love each other but because of circumstances in his life things have been difficult. We are very much in love that's why we are still together. When I arrived & moved in with him, we were both so excited & happy to be together. After 2 weeks his son 25 then came to visit & decided to stay. He never told me his son has slight schizophrenia, he is harmless but very addicted to pot & would just want to be high everyday, he is like a child & just very lazy & clueless of the reality of life. The mother died 2 years prior & he jumps from one relative to another. I know he wanted to stay with us because he is jealous of me. So life with his son was very difficult, at that time I was doing my divorce so we could marry. But because of his son I left him one time, I told him as much as I love him I will not make him choose between us because that his son. When he asked me to come back, he said he wanted us to try vegas for financial reasons because palm beach is seasonal. Low seasons we hardly had income. But vegas did not work for us, me still unable to work at that time.he had a hard time looking for work because of his age 60, so muchcompetirion in the restaurant business. He was a restaurant captain in high end restaurant here in palm beach. To make the story short, after 3 months in vegas with no income, we decided to come back to Florida. At that time my divorce was finally finalized, we then got married. After 2 months of our saving depleted & problems with his son, I came to the point I had enough. I told him I was leaving, he didn't want me to & begged me not to leave him. He talked to his mom & have his son to get. But August he got sick, his left hip started hurting a lot & he can't hardly walk, he is a veteran so we use the VA. He could not work but thank God I found a waitressing job in a Mexican restaurant, but my pay is low. It took 7 months for VA to find put what's wrong with him. He had aneurysm in his stomach, thus no blood & oxygen flow in his left leg. He had surgery last february.he has recovered but just started going back to work almost 2 months now. Because of the financial problems we went through our savings are gone. We are surviving pay check to pay check, a lot of times we hardly have anything. Our rent is so high because this is Riviera beach, our pay goes to our rent & we are always left with so little. Because of his illness we were unable to pay for a lot of our bills affecting his credit. Right now we hardly have anything & we cannot even shop for food. It is so unfair that we are working but it does not suffice for our needs. I'm looking into rent to own but I'm not sure if it's a solution. Season is coming soon, but what solution is there before the season comes? I'm just so sad... I so love him & I will not let this break us.
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Thank you for your answers... I'm sorry if my letter wasn't clear. I was actually looking for answers on how we can somehow find ways to solve our current financial problems. Though the immigration thing is also a problem & I thank you for your answer. I am just busy with work at the moment but will be in touch.
The seasonal thing is when it's summer here there is no business. This a tourist place & hardly any business on summers. The season will turn soon & the snow birds are coming back. So I'm hoping things are on its way for the better. Again thank you for your replies.
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Hello my friend....I THINK you're looking for some way to get some help with getting your Visa? If that IS the case, shoot me an email and let's talk about it. :)
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You told your story but it isn't clear to me what advice you are looking for. The only thing I see with a question mark is "what solution is there before the season comes?" I am not from Florida so I am not sure what Season you are talking about unless it has to do with weather and you are waiting for winter. I am almost 60 myself. Hubby and I live out of our van. Its been 4 years living this way. We had moved out of one place, found another but he broke his leg the day after we met the landlord and all the money for moving in went to just living out of the van after we stayed for a month with his coworker. So at first, we lived this way due to him not being able to work, but now, with the high cost of living, we decided we would not both work two jobs just to afford a regular tiny apartment, nothing fancy. I know plenty of people who work two jobs and are never home except to sleep and shower. We have a bed in our van, and we shower at the gym we have membership at. So we have those two things covered. We'd like to upgrade to a van we can stand up in but we need to save up for the one we want and generally, they're running around 10 grand for the best years models of the make we want. We don't live paycheck to paycheck because currently hubby is unemployed as am I. But we have food stamps and get paid for odd jobs and his regular picking up and returning grocery carts to one store that pays us cash for, enough for gas and incidentals. We know we won't be able to afford senior housing once we retire. We know people moving out to move in with kids as they can't afford it. And I'm on the other coast, not Florida. It is tough everywhere hon. There is a growing amount of either young couples without kids yet, or senior citizens choosing to live out of homes on wheels, RVs or anything like Vans, even cars and they go to free camping which is time limited so they move on and see the country. We have our state and city as home base and plan to hang here for relatives around the holidays but travel the rest of the time. After working so hard our entire lives to get nowhere, we've decided to rethink what we grew up used to, rent or mortgage and all the other bills that come with it. We are doing fine as we are by choice. We do not care to work like a dog until the day we die. We'd rather enjoy our older years, even if it means giving up the tradition of having an apartment or a house. We live on so little that donating plasma is a good amount to help us keep going. We have my phone bill, car insurance and gym membership and storage rental and mailbox rental, both the same place. Those are regular bills and they always somehow get paid. I really can't tell you what opportunities there are in Florida to make some easy cash for a while. For big bills like the electric bill, you can make arrangements with the power company. I worked with people who lived in low income housing, had a disabled family member and there wasn't enough money to pay all bills and they had to apply for help. Try your local DSHS to see what is available in help to pay some bills. As for work, go to the unemployment office and mention your situation and ask what short term work there is for either of you until this season you speak of, comes.
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