Member Since: September 26, 2018
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Last Update: October 4, 2018
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Hello,i hope the person who'll read this is having a good day. I just picked this category because what I need advice for, I don't know what category it belongs in. I'm a 54 filipina, married my American husband last year of june. Unfortunately we have not filed for my petition because we are sadly currently broke. I've been with him for almost 4 years, we met online & because I have a U.S. visa, we both decided to be together. From the start our relationship has been tested. We do love each other but because of circumstances in his life things have been difficult. We are very much in love that's why we are still together. When I arrived & moved in with him, we were both so excited & happy to be together. After 2 weeks his son 25 then came to visit & decided to stay. He never told me his son has slight schizophrenia, he is harmless but very addicted to pot & would just want to be high everyday, he is like a child & just very lazy & clueless of the reality of life. The mother died 2 years prior & he jumps from one relative to another. I know he wanted to stay with us because he is jealous of me. So life with his son was very difficult, at that time I was doing my divorce so we could marry. But because of his son I left him one time, I told him as much as I love him I will not make him choose between us because that his son. When he asked me to come back, he said he wanted us to try vegas for financial reasons because palm beach is seasonal. Low seasons we hardly had income. But vegas did not work for us, me still unable to work at that time.he had a hard time looking for work because of his age 60, so muchcompetirion in the restaurant business. He was a restaurant captain in high end restaurant here in palm beach. To make the story short, after 3 months in vegas with no income, we decided to come back to Florida. At that time my divorce was finally finalized, we then got married. After 2 months of our saving depleted & problems with his son, I came to the point I had enough. I told him I was leaving, he didn't want me to & begged me not to leave him. He talked to his mom & have his son to get. But August he got sick, his left hip started hurting a lot & he can't hardly walk, he is a veteran so we use the VA. He could not work but thank God I found a waitressing job in a Mexican restaurant, but my pay is low. It took 7 months for VA to find put what's wrong with him. He had aneurysm in his stomach, thus no blood & oxygen flow in his left leg. He had surgery last february.he has recovered but just started going back to work almost 2 months now. Because of the financial problems we went through our savings are gone. We are surviving pay check to pay check, a lot of times we hardly have anything. Our rent is so high because this is Riviera beach, our pay goes to our rent & we are always left with so little. Because of his illness we were unable to pay for a lot of our bills affecting his credit. Right now we hardly have anything & we cannot even shop for food. It is so unfair that we are working but it does not suffice for our needs. I'm looking into rent to own but I'm not sure if it's a solution. Season is coming soon, but what solution is there before the season comes? I'm just so sad... I so love him & I will not let this break us. (link)
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Thank you for your answers... I'm sorry if my letter wasn't clear. I was actually looking for answers on how we can somehow find ways to solve our current financial problems. Though the immigration thing is also a problem & I thank you for your answer. I am just busy with work at the moment but will be in touch.
The seasonal thing is when it's summer here there is no business. This a tourist place & hardly any business on summers. The season will turn soon & the snow birds are coming back. So I'm hoping things are on its way for the better. Again thank you for your replies.
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