Gender: Male
Location: Alaska
Occupation: Firefighter
Member Since: September 1, 2018
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Last Update: September 1, 2018
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how long would you date a woman before you think she should have sex with you? what if she was still a virgin and was waiting till marriage, would you still continue to date her? (link)
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It depends on the relationship and how long you have been together. If your waiting till marriage then wait till marriage. If he loves you then sex isnt the reason he loves you and he wont have a problem waiting. Just know that he might think about it a lot, but if he has any commen sense he know how to control his emotions. You just need to establish what your bondieries are and then let him know about those bondries.
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My love life is pretty terrible and I'm stuck in the rut of liking guys but they don't like me back or they like me and I have no interest back. Anyways in the past I haven't really liked younger guys and usually go for older guys but sometimes like younger guys if they are sweet but yes, have a lot to learn. Anyways I kinda like a guy who is younger but I am not sure if he likes me back. I used to message him a lot but lately I haven't had time to make conversation. Sometimes after not speaking for a while he talks a lot. He told me once he doesn't like to text which made me kinda annoyed but was very polite about it. Then told me he wanted to keep me around and I am fun to be around. I've got an awesome personality and says he doesn't know how to say it but he wants me to be around and to be friends... He's very sweet and asked about how my mom was doing since she was in the hospital. But, I'm confused and wondering if it's too early to tell if there is a connection. Definitely a friend connection and have stuff in common. We hang out in an awesome group of friends and he can't drink much LOL. But, while he was drinking I overheard him say my name to a friend we were talking to and couldn't hear what he was saying due to loud music. He then told me he wanted to kiss me and I laughed. I then realized that's probably his alcohol talking. I do catch him looking at me but maybe he's just comfortable around me. I'm not sure what to think of him and think it might be too early to say he likes me that way. I know he's looking for a girlfriend but for some reason I can't seem to test the water. I have been hurt so many times and it sounds like he has been too. Sorry for any typos and thanks for reading. (link)
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As a young guy with crazy social anxiety, and just gettimg out of the exact same situation you are in now, I think I can give you some hopefully decent advice lol.
First off this guy your talking about seemes to just like you as a friend and maybe he is hoping for a "friends with benefits" kind of deal, I can't know for shure, it depends on how long you've been talking. If it wasn't the alcohol talking when he wanted to kiss you then hes keeping you around for the right moment...if you catch my drift. Also no guy is ever going to "dislike texting" if it's with a girl they actually like. I personally look forward to whenever a girl who I like is texting me, especially if I know shes into me as well. Its really the only way to get know people anymore lol.
I know a few guys who do similar things that this dude seems to be doing and their intentions are never really for the right reasons. For example my friend just did the same thing to a girl to make his ex jealous. So im just gonna be careful around that guy and try not to get to hopefull.
So first of all set a rule of age for yourself. Its what I did after dateing a few girls who might have been a little to old for me. My rule now is either 3 years younger, same age, or 3 years over. The only exception I hold to that is if I met someone truly a one of a kind person. Typically dating someone who is "too" young or "too" old leads to poor connections, and relationships are built on what you have in common with another person and we typically find connections with those who are closer to our age.
Also make shure your know your self first. It's hard to find someone when you can't even find your self.
Also just put yourself out there. It been working for me. Even it means haveing a silly amount of dateing apps on your phone or whatnot.
To sum it all up I'm just gonna say "just keep swimming". Maybe if you just power through it all eventually you'll come across the guy that will definitely work for you. Sometimes the best things in life just come to us, instead of us trying to find it.
Good luck. I hope my advice can help.
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Hi, I’m having a lot of trouble concentrating and choosing something I want to dedicate to in life. I started out in Geology, switched to English, am gonna graduate from English, but am thinking of doing a second bachelor afterwards. This is highly impractical as its very expensive and there is rarely any financial help for a second bachelors. My problem is that I want both art and science. However its better to focus on an area and take hobbies on the side, but I can’t decide. For science I was thinking of Indiana University Bloomington and its Earth and Atmospheric Sciences, maybe combine with Anthropology or Animal Behavior since the university is flexible towards doubles. I like the idea of traveling to different locations, learning to appreciate our Planet, being outdoors, and knowing how everything is formed like mountains and waterfalls, and exploration in general sounds amazing to me (I did start out in Geology). The artistic career is possibly in film, and so far I’m favoring SCAD for this (Savannah College of Art and Design). There are various areas I like, such as Animation, Sound Design, Sequential Art, Production Design and Performing Arts. I did a film minor which made me be very interested in filmmaking and similar art forms. I enjoy creative freedom and expression, though I’m afraid of the industry as there is possibility of a lot of competition, not to mention that there’s a chance I fail to “dazzle” with my work. My problem is that I want a career where I know I’m making a difference, that I’ll contribute in some way to our society, help people in any way, whether it be by taking safety measures for hazardous areas or entertaining them by giving them something they can identify with or can simply enjoy. I know that in the end it’s really up to me, but I don’t know how to go about it. I’ve made countless lists of pros/cons for each career/major but I’m always worried I’ll be miserable wherever I end up in. Also, just the fact that I’m afraid of doing another bachelor’s is enough to put me off. I also consider an alternate route of studying a certificate sort of program. In Vancouver there is a pretty good school but it doesn’t fully convince me. I love dogs too so I considered the Animal Behavior College to get certified as a trainer but that’s something I’d like to do as a hobby of sorts, so I really just... well, don’t know. (link)
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So it sounds like you have no idea what your really want to do....
Personally I'm just like you. I still to this day have no idea what I want to do in life. However I've recently found out what I want to do and I'll tell you what helped me find that out.
For me I wanted to be Pararescue in the Air Force. I volunteered at a fire station and became a EMT/firefighter. I then found out I dont like the medical field and I wasn't very happy for a while. I then found a piece of advice when talking to my grandfather.
"Just do what makes you happy and screw the consequences, spend your life doing something you love and spend your life with people who live you"
I hope this advice helps. Good luck
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So I’ve only had 4 driving lessons and I have 6 more. My driving instructor critizes everything I do. He says I don’t listen to him and that I’m not watching my surroundings even thoughI am. I always listen to him but when I do multiple mistakes it’s a problem. Mind you I don’t get to practice at home because we only have one car and my dad uses it for work from 7am to 7pm and when he’s home I’m at work. The only time i get to practice is during my driving lessons. Also my driving lessons are once a week. However he always expects me to know everything but I feel like I’m not improving because of how spaced out my lessons are. Today he said I’m not controlling the car meanwhile he’s holding the steering wheel, he won’t let me steer at all and he’s accelerating the gas, pressing the brakes etc. Then when I do it he gets mad again saying that I’m not listening to him. What do I do? Last week I ended up crying during my lesson because it was only my third one and he already expected me to check my blind spots, change lanes, turn the car properly etc . Meanwhile I was never taught to check my blind spots (maybe it’s commen sense but whatever), I still have trouble turning etc. After he saw me crying he apologized saying he realized it was only my third lesson but he’s just being hard cause that’s what makes a good driver I understand that bad his approach is discouraging making me feel like I don’t know anything. Today it got to the point where he told me to get out of the drivers seat and he showed me how to turn and then when I got back and couldn’t do it he got mad and ended the lesson saying I don’t listen. Then he asked if I wanted to drive cause it seems like I don’t want to. Any tips on how I should approach the situation? My friend said I can call and ask for another instructor but if I do I’d have to start from square one. (link)
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I think you might want to just requested a new instructor, unless you think you can grind your self into dealing with the one you have now. If you need more practice anyway starting from square one might be the best bet. If your parents are paying for these lessons try to talk with them about it too. If none of that works out I guess the best thing to do is just to have to put on a sense of diligence and try to work things out with the guy and maybe even explain to him that you really are makeing a effort to learn but his criticism isnt not helping.
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I’m talking to this guy for the second time. I’m not a virgin although I’m not sure if he is or not. Although he is the type to be a virgin. We have talked freaky before we established the talking stage and I’ve sent a few nudes, but I would really like to take things slow. I know with his last gf she didn’t send nudes at all or have sex with him Bc of her religious stuff I believe. But he wants to go to lunch and stuff and I’ve been so anxious about that Bc I’m afraid he’ll try and do stuff based on a past horrid experience. But he is a super nice guy and and seems like he wouldn’t do something I’m not comfortable with. I’m just a super nervous person and don’t know what to do or say to him to clarify that I’d like to take things slow bc I want an actual relationship and something that will last. What do I do/say? What do I do about lunch/dates too? P.s. I’ve known him for about six or seven years and is a good guy. (link)
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I dont think you have too much to worry about here. If he seemes like the virgin type then hes just trying to cover that up cause he dosent quite get how to react, for guys the first time is really awkwar. I think he just plans on takeing you out to good lunch to get know you better in person. Basically just let him know you want to take things slow. Being truefull and open with someone can often lead to the best results.
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I have been dating this a guy for almost a year and one of the biggest things we argue about is his inability to stand up for himself or others. For example, a couple of months ago one of his "so called" friends called me a bitch online and my boyfriend did not say anything to him as “I didn't tell him to”. The only way he did was by me calling him and telling him how hurt I was that he hadn't said anything as he always told me he didn't like this "so called" friend anyway. Basically, he felt that he couldn’t say anything as his mom and his “so called” friend’s mom were best friends.
***I am the type of person that will stand up for anyone I love regardless of the situation.
Now he is in college and I am a senior in high school and recently he decided that during the little amount of time we had to talk that he would hang out with his friends that he had been hanging out with all day because he felt as if he couldn't say no. He texted me saying that he was probably going to stay up late and would text me good morning tomorrow. This might not sound bad, but just the night before he told me he was tired and that he was going to bed early. He said that he felt okay going to bed early when texting me because he feels comfortable with me but not his friends.
My question is how should I feel about this? I keep telling him that he needs to stand up for himself otherwise he is going to get pushed around. He counters my argument by saying that just like my anxiety it’s not easy to fix. So am I asking too much of him? What should I do?
In my heart, I feel as though he needs to stand up for himself otherwise I am going to get hurt somehow. I love him so much, but when he chooses peer pressure over me I feel inferior. If he wanted to talk to me over his friends that he had been hanging out with all day, why can’t he just say no?
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I suffer from sever social anxiety, and currently my own issues to deal with lol. However I was exactly where you're boyfriend is at one point in my life thanks to that anxiety.
What worked for me was getting rid of those toxic people who surrounded me. It took until my junior year of high school before I did anything, I got tired of being a "follower" as my real friends said. After getting rid of everyone I found I had about three real friends and my self confidence and even my relationships with other people improved.
I think you should try to work with him and find out what is really causing this trouble in his life. If you cut it away from him, like I did with myself I think you will see a improvement.
You your self should never put yourself in harm's way weather it be emotional or physical harm. So if it becomes to much to deal with I would try to wake him up with a little "scare" in a sense.
Good luck and I hope I helped :)
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I’m a 13 year old girl and I’m trying to lose weight. Recently I got back from a vacation and was a little jet lagged and I don’t like coffee so I thought I’d try a cup of tea to keep me awake and I’ve started to have a cup of tea every night while I’m sitting in bed reading etc. Is this bad for me? Will it get in the way of me losing weight? (link)
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To tea specifically It will depend on what you put in it and what it derives from but I see no problem with it. Coffee has caffeine so cutting that out is always a good thing. A good alternative to staying away in the morning is exercise, I'm not a morning person at all so I find exercise a good way to snap me out of that fog. Also going to bed a normal time, and getting up to 8 to 10 hours of sleep also works very well for me.
However for weight loss I might be able to give you a few ideas. I personally consider working out and a diet is the best option to take. Weather you have access to a gym or not. Something as simple as running can make a crazy difference. Good luck! I hope my opinion helps.
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