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mom likes little sister better then me
I'm 14 and my sister is 10. Since my sister was about 4 years old my mom started not being nice to me but super nice to my sister ( offers to help my sister with school work, does her chores for her and never blames her for anything ) in fact if my sister ever does bad stuff ( which she does all the time knowing that she won't get in trouble ) my mom screams at me saying my sister used to be sweet and i made her a brat but then goes back to my sister like everything is fine. also we are both homeschooled and my mom will not help me with my school work i have to try and do all of it by myself i also cook all the meals for my family, clean and do all the laundry anyway i just don't think it's ok the way she treats me. sorry this is so long.
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This is a very delicate situation. It is very common for the youngest child to be more spoiled, but that is wrong. I think you should do things, that your mother will value she will value what you do and who you are. Sometimes talk to her closest parents, that having more contact with her would be good. Because they can talk to her and she listens to them and she can really see what you do. But it's all matter of time, when your sister gets older the situation will change, until then, be patient. Mothers and fathers sometimes go blind and do not see what they do. All the best for you!
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Wow, that is super frustrating. I have three kids myself, and I know that my oldest probably feels like you do sometimes. The truth is, that parents have absolutely no idea what they are doing. And it's really freaking scary paying for 5 people including yourself in order to keep a roof over their heads, and food in their bellies. Their well being all depends on me getting up, and going to work. Scares the crap out of me sometimes. But I do it.
It sounds like your mother just isn't the type of person to know how to sit down and just talk to you. Which I know is even harder.
Parents can suck sometimes. I think what you need is to spend some time with her. See if you can have your little sister in bed by a certain, time and you two can cuddle up and watch a movie together, and or talk about life. I think part of what is so hard about being a parent, is remember what it was like being a kid, or a teenager. Sometimes we forget.
All my best,
Mary
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Your situation is not unique. THe younger child is generally the one mom will always think of as her baby. THe older child is the experiment in parenting. Whatever they feel they did wrong with the older child they make up for with the younger child.
The real problem is parents do not realize what they are doing and how it affects the older child and the relationship between siblings. My Aunt pitted my two cousins against each other to the point as adults they do not speak to one another.
I suggest you talk with grandparent or Aunt, preferably moms sister and see if they won't intervene for you.
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since I was a little girl my mom almost always took my side when my sister and I fought, and it made my sister hate me, she was mean to me years later just because of things that happened when I was 5 years old and she was like 10. I do understand that it's annoying but don't get it out on your sister. try to talk with your mom about it in a mature way, and also convince your sister to help in the house so you won't be the only one that's working.
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