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Am I gay?
I’m a 13 year old girl and recently I was lying on my bed with my best friend watching videos and I looked over at her and had a huge urge to kiss her. I’ve also had dreams and feel attracted to another girl. I also have an obsession over many male actors and have had crushes on boys. What does this mean?
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It means you're hormonal. It will pass (in a way) when you reach menopause.
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This is more common than you think at your age. Right now you feel attraction to both sexes and it could change as you grow older and decide on only one, or you may be bi sexual, meaning you are aroused by and desire same sex and opposite sex. People do not talk much about bi sexual-ness but it is as valid a sexual lifestyle as gay, straight, transgender, etc...
Now as for the dream, it can be exciting or annoying depending on how you believe. I used to have dreams I was a male or sometimes a female with a female having sex. It disturbed me because I attended church and anything remotely about being gay or same sex was forbidden. I struggled with it for years, feeling guilty until one day God spoke to me about past lives. Thats another ting church does not believe in. Who was I going to believe, man or God? Well I was told that in my dreams, my subconscious remembers glimpses of past lives, and so was remembering being a male in some of them instead of being born female. Once I accepted that and was no longer guilty because it was a memory, the dreams that haunted me all the time dissappeared. I have not had another such dream since then. This may not be exactly whats happening for you when you dream of desiring girls but my point is the guilt vs the peace I felt simply by how I thought about it. You can choose whether you will be at peace about this or feel that you are abnormal somehow. I hope this has helped you dear.
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Are you gay? No your normal. You are a normal 13 year old going through puberty. In the early stages of puberty it is not uncommon to have feelings for someone of your same sex. It is not uncommon to experiment sexually with someone of your same sex. It does not mean you gay or even bi.
As you get older and start being comfortable around boys your feel more comfortable in your sexuality. Do not rush to put a label on yourself as it will only harm you with friends and at school.
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