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Can someone make me feel better about this?
So I struggle with severe body dysmorphia disorder. I only ever hear compliments about my appearance, never any negativity. But I still see myself as very deformed and hideous.
How can I feel better? I've tried therapy, and every therapist I've had just made me feel worse, so I'm not doing that again no matter what anyone says, I'm sorry.
How can I just focus completely on my inner beauty and never on my looks (except for healthy self-care)?
It's not that I'm vain, it's just my illness makes me focus on my looks so much.
Does anyone have any tips on how to improve my personality so I can be sweeter, kinder, more caring, more sensitive to people's feelings, less angry and irritated, happier, more enthusiastic and optimistic, etcetera?
Thank you, I really appreciate it.
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You say you have tried therapy without success. I did some quick reading on this disorder an it is labeled a mental disease. This tells me if your a therapist such as a PHD that could be the wrong approach.
Therapy with a psychologist is the right approach but you also need the help of a qualified, meaning Board Certified Psychiatrist. Why a psychiatrist? Because dysmorphia disorder falls into the area of anxiety and depression which are a treatable part of the problem.
I suffered form clinical depression and I can attest to the fact that depression is everything it is cracked up to be. Your perception of everything is way off. Which is part of your problem you see defects in your body that may or may not be there.
With a proper evaluation by a Board Certified Psychiatrist proper medication can be prescribed. No I didn't feel as if I was a walking zombie. As I did you may have to work your way up to the proper clinical dosage which can take several weeks. As I did I could feel a change in me and my wife saw a change in me. No I was not cured but I was a lot calmer and my perception was changing. Now I was ready to work with a psychologist to get at the root of my depression and work on how to avoid becoming depressed in the future.
If how my depression does not sound like what you have been though in your treatment then I suggest the following.
1. Male an appointment with your family doctor for a complete physical. Both the psychiatrist and the psychologist will want you to do this to rule out any organic reason for the problem.
2. Find a Board Certified Psychiatrist to evaluate you and prescribe medication. Your insurance company can help you with this.
3. Find a therapist to work with. Your psychiatrist may recommend some one he or she is comfortable working with.
Since you are most likely female if you would be more comfortable working with females then ask for female providers when asking for suggestions on providers from the Insurance company or any of your doctors.
The key to successful therapy is a willingness to be totally open with your therapist. Hold nothing back, just remember what is said in therapy in therapy no one but you and the therapist will ever speak of it to anyone unless you give written consent to do so.
IF you have not gone through treatment the way I have then please give my advise a try. You have nothing to loose and everything to gain.
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