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how to ask my teacher to go for coffee (we're really close and she moved)
17/female/south african
Im in a really small school with only 13 people in a class. In grade 8 we got a teacher and we were her first class ( so she was 24 and is 26 now) and me and her became really close. She told me a few times im like the little sister she never had and she helped me through so much like breakups or just being there for me when i cried and she knew stuff not even my friends know (like molest and when i use to cut and stuff). She was my teacher for 2 and a half years then middle last year she moved to a different continent but we kept in contact and is now back here visiting for her wedding. She visited my school today but i wasnt able to talk to her as she was busy with other teachers and i had my friends and i didnt wanna be annoying because i knew shed wanna catch up with her friends. So i said hi and bye and she asked how im holding up. But i kinda feel bad now for incase it seemed like i didnt wanna talk to her. I really wanna catch up and talk so i wanna message her and ask if we can go for coffee sometime as im on school holiday after today and she only leaves in august. But will it be weird if i ask since she was my teacher?
Ps: shes the same age as my older sister so im used to being around older people
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Since she is no longer your teacher there is no reason why you cannot be friends normal social engagements for people of your ages. You say she is about the same age as your older sister is. So anything you might do with your older sister would be acceptable to ask to do with her.
The only time having a social interaction of any type with a teacher is when they are still your teacher or teaching at your school. Even if you were 18 and considered an adult under the law. The fact that having a social integration with a teacher who instructs you or is in your school is wrong is because they are in a position of influence over you. This teacher no longer teacher in your school or area she has no influence over you. She is no different then say a neighbor would be. So go ahead and ask her to have coffee.
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Not weird at all. She had a special connection with you already in your 8th grade. When I was in High School, the school nurse had several girls who took turns helping her out for a class period. All those girls, including me, wanted to keep in touch. This woman was somewhere between the ages of my Mom and Grandma. So when I had a reunion party of sorts a couple years after I graduated and invited them all, the school nurse showed up too and was very happy and honored to be remembered by us. So go ahead and enjoy.
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