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Basic sign of him interested in you?
How do you know if he actually is into you through all this light humour manner? Known for a while. Can be hard sometimes to know what he's been up to but how do they simply behave or chat once they know they are interested in their female friend?? Do they try to hide?
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First one: How do you know if he actually is into you
To know 100% for sure is to hear it from his own mouth followed by actions that show he has deep feelings for you. Humor can't be counted on to tell if a person likes you as a friend or as more than a friend. But wanting to and choosing to talk with you and hang around with you does mean there is a level of interest, whether as a friend or more. Even you would not choose to hang around a guy you did not find interesting as a friend or more. No one would. Guys are no differeent.
2. how do they simply behave or chat once they know they are interested in their female friend?
I'll tackle the last part first 'once they know they are interested in their female friend' cus to me just at base value, it assumes the guy will actually realize he has deeper feelings for a girl than friendship. Next the word 'interest' is too loose a term since males find it easier to fall into lust with a female than to fall in love. Both are important but it would be a mistake to assume a guy is in love when his interest is much more shallow. Don't think that isn't so. I was married to a guy who in the end after decades told a counselor he had never been in love with me.
As to whether a guy changes his behavior once he realizes it. Put yourself in his shoes. How easy is it to point blank confess your feelings when there is a possibility the other persons feelings don't go any further than friendship. Too many women and men have no idea what to do because of a fear that once they say something in such a case, that the other would stop being friends because of how awkward it makes them feel. So I am not just answering for how a guy would act, it's really no different than how a female would act. If there is genuine interest of the kind you are hoping for, body language may give you better cues. There are things we do subconsciously without even thinking about it, motions, actions, without realizing that these are glaring clues. Most the signs are the same for both sexes but there are a few unique to women such as tossing their hair back and exposing their neck for him to view. It never looks deliberate because women don't know they are doing it. If you search on you tube for videos of body language that someone has interest in you, you should have plenty to watch and learn from. I periodically go and watch more of these so I don't forget anything.
3. Do they try to hide?
If by chance a guy really is crazy about you, he just might hide it if not sure you feel the same. So his actions or talk do not change here. If he only says I like you, that may not mean love, its too weak a word as it can be taken several ways. If he only says I love you but never shows it in his actions, in fact treating you the opposite of what those words mean, then he cancels them out. Some guys won't try to hide it but the clues still may not stand out to a girl. I suppose it depends on how well you know a person to spot subtle differences. You have seen romantic movies of a guy who buys his lady friend some roses, opens doors for her, takes her out. This would not sound like he is hiding anything. This looks like a sign that a guy is crazy about the girl. Yeah, some guys know for sure right from the start that they have deep feelings for the gal. But how they show it might not resemble what you see in movies. Purchasing a gift for you isn't the only way people show love. If interested, you can research for yourself on the web to read about the '5 love languages' originally written by a Christian author and now its popularity for its simple but right to the point teaching stands true no matter what beliefs a person has so everyone has something on this. A person will show love in the way they want to receive it instead of paying attention to signs of what love language their person of interest needs to feel loved. Too many may have feelings but are showing them in a way that the other person doesnt comprehend. So the love languages is also an important study besides body language. When you can lean back on the knowledge of these things, I believe you'll feel better equipped to figure it out correctly for yourself. Good luck.
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