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mythejane99
Hi :) ...i really dont what to do, i know i already told you about ot but still i dont know wha im doing wrong ...i always say nicely hello to my friends that im really good friends with and they just look at me and say nothing....nobody likes me in my class ....im always nice to everyone...even my friends(girls) like my twin brother more than me
nobody texts me first , nobody ask me to hang oit first....i ask my friend if she wants to hang out with me, she told me she'll let me know but she never did .even after 4 years in high school im still not comfortable with my "friend",im so horrible at small talk ...am i ugly or im not funny or what...im.so invisible to everyone....if i didnt star convetsation ...nobody would speak to me first ...why ??.i just really wanted to enjoy my hogh school years :(
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I am sorry you do not seem to be enjoying your high school years. Quite often we expect them to live up to an expectation which is not reasonable. A lot of people feel exactly the same as you. When older people (like me!) look back and talk about their younger days they can often make things sound better than they actually were. We tend to edit-out the not-so-good, frequently!! In fact it's often a very stressful and confusing time because of the age we are. We are finding our own way in the world. We are no longer just the son/daughter of our parents, no longer children. We are forming and forging our own identity. Our personality and character. Learning about relationships with people other young adults. The people around us are now what is called our 'peer-group' It's a very stressful time for most of us in fact. We also feel very self-critical. As though everybody is looking at us and judging us. In a way, they are, but they have all the same insecurities and the same feeling of being 'under the microscope' as we do ourselves! I really do feel that a lot of your experiences are touching you so deeply because of the low slef-esteem issue we have discussed before? That's not a psychiatric condition that needs medication. It's the feeling that we are not valuable, or valued. That we are not even adequate, nerver mind good. And ugly, unlikeable, stupid etc etc....all negative stuff! OK. How about you sit down and start to list some good stuff about yourself? Some good sides to your circumstances? You're off to Uni soon, so you aren't stupid. And your parents arene't pressuring you into taking some dead-end job straight away to get some money in. get the idea? How about posting me a reply telling me some positive things about yourself? X
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