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How can I be secure about my body?
My breasts are around a 38AA and my butt isn't exactly big. (I'm very skinny) I like the idea of my body being "cute" instead of "sexy," but I'm still very insecure about it. How can I be more confident in my own skin? I'm a 19 year old female, by the way.
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I would say play to your strengths. We feel pretty good when we make the most of the cards we have. Wishing we had different cards is pointless and demoralising. Embrace 'cute-sexy' I say! In your style, your outfits, your attitude...in your whole 'look' as it were. What's all this 'real you'stuff actually mean, anyway? Cute-sexy IS the real YOU! Leave voluptuous/curvy-sexy to others. It's a 'square pegs in round holes' situation. They just don't fit properly so why keep trying to bang them in?? Personally, I think cute-sexy is just adorable. And I doubt I'm the only one of this opinion either. Channel the inner cutie mate!
ps. Try googling actress Audrey Hepburn. The high-priestess of cute-sexy! Supremely confident and comfortable in her skin. Adored by blokes and admired by other women alike. How good is that?
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Even though there's a persistent cultural idea that men are only attracted to big breasts and butts, this is totally inaccurate. If you look at the various "lists of 2015/2016's hottest women" out there, you'll see that a large percentage of women listed do not have large breasts.
Some people are very shallow. Some of them might totally disregard you because you don't fit their ideal, while others might be especially attracted to you. In either case, it's probably best to avoid shallow people.
But with that in mind, if you want to improve your attractiveness, I recommend focusing on things like your hair and skin, as well as anything that would improve your health (eg. bringing your BMI / bodyfat percentage up or down into the normal range). These are things that men will pretty much universally find attractive, unlike your general proportions, which most men don't particularly care about.
adviceman49's advice was generally good, but I wouldn't even have breast enhancement surgery as an option on the table unless you're suffering from severe body dysphoria. With perfect surgery you'd maybe become extra attractive to 20% of men, less attractive to 10% of men, and the rest wouldn't care.
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This may be hard to understand and I will try my best to explain. Let's start with the fact that the beauty which is are body literally is only skin deep. You as a person are not what your body represents.
For example and you may have heard this from boys in high school. That big breasted girls are easy or sexually loose or promiscuous. Not true.
You are the person underneath the skin. The intellectual, the joker, the sympathetic friend and all those things rolled into what makes you, you. Your body houses all that and your appearance is for attracting the a life mate. There are people out there looking for a life mate with huge breasts and big butts and ones looking for flat chests and small butts. There is someone out there for you the person behind the window dressing of the body
You should not be insecure about your body for it is yours. By all means learn to dress to show yourself to the best advantage. How much and what type of makeup to use and what hair style bests fits you and your personality.
I do not suggest breast enhancement unless you have a minimum of $20,000 to pay for a proper surgery. This is where the surgeon puts the implant behind the muscle so that there is no tell tale ring under your skin that screams boob job. Breast enhancement is not covered by surgery unless their is a medical reason for it.
We place far to much emphasis on our bodies. Guys do not take the dumb blonde types home to meet their mothers. They take the girls who can hold a conversation with others. Who know which fork to use and how to dress properly for the occasion. This is you I can tell that from what you have written. Be proud of what you have. Dress for success and hold your head up high for literally you are one of a kind and any guy will be lucky to get you.
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