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Crazy mom
Well I was laying down on the catch and just searching for something watch. My mom walks in and asked, how was your day?
Me: it was good
Mom: was your day fun ?
Me: umm yeah I think so
Mom: what did your friends and you do today?
Me: just same old same old. Like talking
Mom: do you have an attitude today?
Me: I don't why ?
Mom: cause it seems like you don't wanna be bother
Me: I answered your questions and I didn't say it with an attitude. I just answered your question and there wasn't anything to add.
( mom says nothing and gets a drink and goes to her room)
So I'm a girl and even I don't act this crazy. She's always been a weirdo but I don't understand why I was treated like the bad guy.
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I thought of another possibility than whats been mentioned. LIke already explained, we don't know your personality or your Moms so its hard to give an answer that will apply perfectly.
If you equate Moms line of questioning as one of the things that make her crazy or a weirdo, as a Mom myself, I can say as a Mom that checking up on and having convo's to connect with our kids is what good Moms do. We do it cus we love our kids. I made sure to sit with each daughter after school and give each a chance to share about her day, any troubles in class or with friends. There is friendly loving convo out of concern or there is interrogation style which can put you at unease and feel like someones looking for anything bad you may have done. So maybe it was tone of voice? If she's like this all the time, you could also try letting her know how her tone of voice affects you. SHe may also be more outgoing and chatty than you. So if you are one of few words, then there may be a personality clash and its up to you both to have a talk about this and come up with ground rules. I know I am a chatty person and I know when I am around someone who isn't. I always give them permission ahead of time to know its okay to let me know when they aren't in the mood to chat or say more and people have taken me up on that at times.
When kids tend to answer with short explanations, and no details, it can drive mom crazy.
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I cannot give you a really good answer for two reasons. First I don't know you or your mother and second I wasn't there and didn't hear the conversation.
As to a possibility. It is possible mom had a bad day. Does she usually come home and have a drink? If not that should have been a signal something was not right with her day.
If she did have a bad day maybe she was looking to have a quiet conversation and relax. Of course you didn't know this and responded as is typical for the teenager I am assuming you are.
What I suggest for the future is you be more alert to mom when she speaks to you. If the questions she asked were not typical of her when she arrives home. That could be sign she may have had a bad day.
You need to respond with something like. You had a bad day mom? What can I do to make it better?
If you know how to put together a decent dinner then you could say. Hey mom why don't you go upstairs take a nice bath and let me cook dinner tonight. If you want to add a little levity you can add, I promise I won't burn the house down.
I don't think you did anything wrong and you are not the bad guy. I think you need to learn to key in to moms mood and be more sensitive to her moods. Just as she has had to be to yours as you have grown up and will continue to grow and mature.
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