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In an Exam u help someone and he gets bad marks and blames it on you. What
well in my school we had this exam and one guy i thought trusted me and i thought we were like best friends.So while the exam goes on he asks me the answers and i have to tell him bcuz i trusted him and he helped me out few times. but then after the exam the marks got out.i had way better marks than him. he is telling everyone that i'm a jerk, lier, cheater.i never thought he would do that. help me pls. and dont ask me that y i told him the answers in the first place.i know, i was stupid. he is passing false rumor abt me. wat should i do. say something or let him do this to me. What should i tell him.btw i cant tell anyone bcuz reasons. and he has like a gang and does this. i mean its been over a year now. i have to do something. but WHAT?? i'm in a such bad situation. i thought he was the nicest guy i knew but i guess not.
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This seems to boil down to bullying by intimidation.
When ever there are bad people about, you try not to get noticed by them. If you are noticed by them, the next step is cut down amount of contact and only pretend to be friends whether you truly are or not cus if you're not their enemy, they place you in Their camp so therefore friends.
I believe this should be handled much the same as other bullying. If you think you had a choice to refuse to answer him on the test, think, just what would have happened if you refused and then you have your answer. If you didn't feel like your well being/life was threatened in any way by refusing, then all it adds up to is a bad mistake. You could talk to a school counselor without mentioning names but thats your choice. Once stuck in such a situation, theres no easy way out. This may have to be handled in the future as a bullying thing. The fact there will be more tests and exams and this guy "Expecting" you to supply the answers mean you need to make a choice..was this the last time? If so, don't just cut him off without saying why. Pick a time he seems to be in a good mood. Then let him know that from the start, you didn't want to do this, and wanted to keep yourself out of trouble and its your choice but you will no longer be helping out. The last test was a wake up call for you just how quick things can be going a way you don't want. While you never gave him false answers ever, he may have hurried or not heard you clearly, but don't say sorry or such cus all that does is state that he was in the right and you were wrong when you know he's wrong. If the worst is the lies he's making up about you, I'd consider myself having got off easy. If his threats don't amount to more than saying bad things about you, then you'll have to live with it cus you've already decided not to tell anyone other than on here I suppose. I may have read this wrong and you meant the event happened a year ago and he is still saying bad things about you. If thats the case, then you already know thatd as long as he's in your life and see's you on a regular basis that this kind of behavior from him is going to continue and has for a year already. Guys who like the run the edge of doing wrong, breaking rules, etc... do not change much and they don't like extra work. its got to be easy or they make someone else do it as in the case of studying for a test. He won't do it cus he's too lazy and its too much effort. So he made you do it or you volunteered to get on his good side which once you've spun em around like a top, you realize, there isn't a good side. So no, he is not the nicest guy but they same the same of men who shot their wife and kids and lastly themselves. No body could see it coming. Its in the consistantcy that a person acts one way or the other whether you can tell what kind of person and what kind of morals they have. This could well change for him as he grows up. But it is what he is currently and you can't be messing with it. After all, kids who really know you if not easily influeneced by the thoughts and sayings and actions of others, will know you well enough to know this isn't you and is just how he gets back at people he thinks has crossed him.
Since its been a year since this particular test if I am right, he's got a long memory and as long as he sees you he will continue. So, either go to a different school, get home schooled which includes telling the parents for those somewhat solutions of how to remove him from your day. Or you wait until you both have graduated and gone different ways so you hopefully never see him again. Other than that, theres no way to talk to anyone and get a solution other than having a talk with the guy himself and I can't say what to do here. Its up to you whether to try and talk to the guy or just cut it off here and learn how to deal with and live with the not so nice consequences. Now if you think this might have a chance as a personal threat case, the school principle and police would need to be advised. Assault and battery are very real charges. And it involves the exact threat of what they will do to you, even if they never do but you think they will, thats bullying. Its considered assault if they threatened, or simply attacked your person with the intent to scare you into c ompliance but werent able to carry thru on the threats. Like, if you don't shut up now I will throw this bottle at you and then they throw a glass bottle at your head meaning to hurt or scare you and even if the shot missed, thats assault. Battery is when the threat goes thru successfully. So really, if ALL you want is this case to go away, more of what you are doing will likely not change things quick enough for your liking as in waiting a handful of years until neither of you know where the other person is or what they're doing. This means that by reasoning this out, you can see that something different from what you've been doing must happen for this to stop. I had something similar go on with me at times at school. My parents were newly from another country and just could not imagine that what I told them was true and so I didnt have help from there and bullying wasn't in the news yet. Hope this all gave you some things to think about. For all I know,, you may be at the police stage already. Until you decide what you will do, best thing is to say nothing but if you do speak to him, record it on your phone for feature evidence in case he tries to switch things on you again.
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