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He won't get out of my head?
I have a crush on this boy, I've asked a question similar to this in the past about the same one, and trust me when I say its been a roller coaster since then. I had this crush and I confessed my feelings, he said he wanted to get to know me better a few days later. It seems normal, but I recently learned he had a crush on my best friend. I just learned this tidbit of info, and my best friend has never lied to be about something like this before, so I guess it's true. He asked her to my school's homecoming dance right after I told him about how I liked him. My best friend flipped out on him, and I thought that was the end. But he won't get out of my head! He ticks me off so much, yet he's so nice and cute. I want to punch him, yet hold his hand at the same time. I have tried everything to get him out if my head, yet these thoughts keep coming back! I don't know what to do, and these feelings are driving me crazy! Any ideas on how to keep these thoughts out if my head.
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You actually gave me food for several different answers of things to address but I will stick with just your title "He won't get out of my head".
When we have something stuck in our heads, it cus we put it there in the first place.
With people rather than things, its more complicated cus theres not just feelings about things anymore but all our emotions are affected by having a date, a sweetheart, a mate.
Next time you have him come to mind, the worst thing you can do is to start thinking about and let your mind go wandering wildly. I beleive most crushes are made up of 10% reality and 90% unreality since it isn't a real relationship between two people and is still one sided until the one makes their move and then theres no guarantee the other will see things and feel things the same way.
The trick is Not dwelling on these thoughts but acknowledging them the moment they appear. If there is something physically you can do about it, then do it, stop thinking it out. But in most cases, there isn't anything you can do and must give yourself this instruction and I am going to say that for you, it must be spoken out loud.
Next time ex crush comes to mind, you say whatever you know the current truth to be, which is that he had a current crush on your best friend. Its not a crime to think of someone, its just when the thinking brings along emotions that are not all the nice ones, that we don't want to think of them. But in your case, its the way to healing. So tell yourself, I have to stop thinking about him cus right now he's interested in ...... and you say it aloud to yourself cus your subconscious mind needs to hear this.
In the first hour, you'll find you caught many thoughts of him and hardly of anything else to accomplish your day. Then after a couple days of tons of thoughts per hour, it slowly goes down and then more, until you can say you went from thinking of a person several times hourly to just a couple times daily.
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Just talk to him and tell him how you felt about how he done you after you told him how you felt you need closure and after you talk to him you will feel better it will be hard to get him out of your head but as time comes a new guy will be in your mind it always helps to talk things out and see where it goes he hurt you and thats not alright be strong and be blunt i hope i helped you out and you have a good friend...
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