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How can I expose somebody who physically and sexually abused me?
Hello, this is very hard for me to write, but I want to know once and for all if there's anything I can do to fix how I feel.
At the beginning of the year I was in an abusive relationship with somebody who sexually and physically abused me as well as stalked me and made death threats against me. I eventually had the courage to end the relationship after 4 months and filed a restraining order against him. I lost jobs over it and even had to move to a new city.
Unfortunately I had a horrible female judge who laughed in my face and said I didn't have any evidence of any of my claims even though I presented her with call logs, voicemails, and hundreds of texts from him with threats in them and admitting to the abuse he inflicted on me. She said none of it was substantial and told me it was my fault for staying with him. The case was then dismissed and I was not allowed to appeal it. His lawyer went on to seal and expunge the record.
It's been months since then and I'm still extremely hurt and angry about it. When I look up his name all I see is positive things about him and I want to expose him for who he really is, but I don't want to get in trouble for slander or anything like that.
Is there any way I can expose him so that people know what they are dealing with without legal ramifications?
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This is a question that needs to be answered by a lawyer who needs to look up the original case and see what the judges order states. While you may not be able to file against him you may be able to have criminal charges filed against him and a lawyer will help you get those charges filed.
Note: In the future never go to court without a lawyer. IF you cannot afford one the court will appoint one if you request one. This happened because you were not properly represented which could help a lawyer reopen this case.
One other thing; I cannot tell from your writing if you are seeking closure or revenge. I can understand seeking closure we all need closure to this type of trauma and there are ways of getting closure without the pain you will inflict upon yourself by trying to reopen this case or trying to get criminal charges filed.
if you are seeking revenge do not confuse it with closure. Rarely does revenge bring closure only more hurt for revenge begets revenge and it continues in a circular pattern until one has had enough.
My advice is to speak with a qualified attorney and to follow the attorney's advice. Most attorneys will speak to you without charge to find out about what you need. If there is monetary compensation that can be gained they may be willing to take the case on contingency which means they get a percentage of the award.
Follow the attorney's advice. IF it turns out you cannot get closure through the courts then seek counseling with a qualified psychologist who can help you put this in the proper perspective so you can move on with your life.
I'm so very sorry you have gone through this. Please don't judge all men by that idiot.
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