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Do I Like Him More Than A Friend?
I have a male friend I have known for the past 16 years of my life and I tell him everything and I love him but not in a romantic way but whenever we meet up for lunch or coffee I always start feeling a little nervous around him and five minutes or so after meeting him that goes away. He and I have tried dating a few times in the past but I felt like it would be better if we stayed friends as I just wasn't feeling it but I still have the nervous feeling when I see himy and feel like I need to put a little extra effort in to looking good for him or subtly flirting with him when I feel sure I don't like him in that way.
What can I do? I know there is a chance he still has feelings for me (he told me years ago he liked me romantically but I didn't feel the same way for him) but now this is happening and I'm not sure what to do or if I should just ignore it.
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i love this question, i have been through this. But i am going to give you some advice that i feel will help. I will not tell you the typical "yes you love him". Although this might be true, you have to think about other things first. Dating someone will either end in heartbreak or marriage. Are you willing to take that risk.
it is a fact that best friends typically young adults will not last and will end up with a very awkward relationship after. my advice depending on your age is that dont rush into anything, if this is truly a great friend they will be there for a long time to come. i would wait for a time when you cant control it anymore and you dont wonder about this question if you like him or not. you will just know. Go with the flow and just be yourself. if things are meant to be then they will be. Falling in love with your best friend is either the most amazing thing in the world or the most terrible thing.
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I'll tell you one thing for sure: If you can't stop thinking about something, then there's definitely a part of you that wants it.
Listen to your gut. The pull. Don't be afraid. Maybe deep down you're developing feelings for him. You just have to face them and embrace them. But I guess time will tell. All I'm saying is, ignoring is not an option. Cause you can try it, but it never works out. If something inside you is happening, then nothing can stop it and ignoring it instead of embracing it will only do worse.
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