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i might get in serious trouble


Question Posted Monday July 18 2016, 6:17 pm

Today was the penultimate day of the school year My friend came up with an idea to pull an awesome prank as a way to end with a bang. The idea was to vandalise the school. I disagreed with him about it but he wanted me to come with him to homework club where he had planned the vandalism. I was trying to do my homework while he was doing the vandalism. He typed the f word on all the computers, and drew a squiggle on the whiteboard and he also write f the school on the blackboard. There was no teacher in the room at the time so i thought he might get away with it. I finished my homework at the same time he finished his vandalism. But just as we were walking out, a teacher walked in and saw the vandalism and me and my friend. She told us to get out of the room, (i dont know if its because of the vandalism or because she had to be somewhere) but i have this teacher 1st period tommorow so im worried if i'll get in trouble or if my friend'll get in trouble. Im scared. What would your advice be?

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solidadvice4teens answered Wednesday July 20 2016, 10:17 pm:
Tell the teacher privately that this person told you what they wanted to do as a prank and was bent on vandalism and doing something destructive and or far worse than what he had done.

Tell her that you were asked to partake and wisely said no but had no idea what was coming with the whiteboard and computers in the school and were just as shocked as she was when he did it and she walked in and had no idea how to stop it.

This teacher may already know that this kind of thing is out of character for who you are and may in fact want you to confront her or hope that you do. I don't know if this room is monitored by any camera but perhaps they can see who is doing destructive things with school computer equipment or the room itself.

I would arrive early tomorrow and someway seek out the teacher yourself for a few private minutes to explain and then let them handle it and or not. If you get in trouble you'll know you did nothing wrong but may face less punishment than the so-called friend.

The other thing the teacher knows is that teenage boys and girls for that matter do stupid stuff like this and that since nothing was destroyed and the computer could be changed back and an obscene word erased on a blackboard that it's NOT as huge as actually destroying real property or writing on walls itself.

She may scold you but everyone knows there's way more severe things that were not done or perhaps the other kid talked about that you telling the truth could thwart. No matter what, honesty is best and approaching this teacher is a good call.

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Dragonflymagic answered Tuesday July 19 2016, 8:46 pm:
If I were in a situation where blame might unrightly be laid upon me, I usually try some investigative asking around or I take to role of giving the person who might think wrongly of me, something else to think about.
I still do this to this day. I work in fast food and was asked to check the restrooms mid day for supplies like paper towels and toilet paper. It took only a minute or two to check, and I was out the door, entering the kitchen where I washed my hands there as thats where we have sanitizer, its not in the restroom. A woman entering seconds before I walked out, came up to order in a few minutes, looked at my boss and pointing to me said, your employee did not wash her hands and sanitize, so you need to work on that with her. The manager was next to me when I washed my hands even though I touched nothing other than door handles concerning restroom, I know it is policy.
He just nodded and said nothing to disagree with her. I took that to mean that I might be in trouble cus maybe he was facing away from me when I washed my hands. So I said, "Did you notice how she got upset that you said it was an extra charge if she wanted *** in her order? And I hope you noticed how she decided to let out her anger by picking on someone other than you the manager. I hope you noticed that I washed my hands at that sink, (I pointed) He says, " its okay Hun, I saw you and yes, she's just one of those unhappy, trouble making people in the world."

He wasn't considering me to be in trouble regarding policies but I didn't know and having peace of mind is so important to me. Right now you need peace of mind.
I am sure also that since this is your friend, you don't want to officially squeal on him and get him in trouble. He was already in trouble from the moment he came up with that idea so its just a matter of justice, not getting caught only but being held responsible for any rules he may have broken. While it all sounds foolish and immature and not at all that great a prank as it would leave no lasting damage, you can't reason away having your good name smeared and get labeled a trouble maker.

So here's what might work. Try to say a quick word with the teacher before or after class, when he's not around to see, or hear. I would probably say, "I'm sure you were shocked to find the classroom in that state yesterday. All I am willing to say is to keep in mind that just because the two of us were in that room, it doesnt mean that both of us were involved. I won't say who did it, but I will say that I used the homework club only to finish my homework."

From that, she will have to assume that since you were willing to say that much, you likely have nothing to hide because you weren't involvede, and that if it wasn't him, then perhaps a third party who entered the room for a short while and did all of that.

My own personal advice for future, if this is a first for him and he doesn't usually do stuff like this, then keep him as a friend. However if he is prone to doing stuff like this all the time, then just be association with him as friend, you may get labeled a trouble maker and have to suffer the consequences of punishment. It may be better to drop him as a friend if talking to him about how its affecting you brings no result for the better. Basically, you can then do better finding new friends who are truly friends. Friends are not people who try to get you into trouble.

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