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What does she mean?
So I sent this girl Emily I really like this message and then when she responded I was confused by what she said. I know nothing is gonna happen between us right now because she does have a boyfriend but by her response do you think I will ever have a chance? I'm 16 and she is going to turn 17 very soon.(I changed the names)
"It's been almost three years since I met you. Honestly I never thought I would be writing and sending this message. When I first met you it wasn't much more then a hi. I remember sitting behind you in Caudill thinking man is she pretty. That whole time I never thought I would come to know you as well as I do. All of freshman year you were this beautiful girl I was starting to get to know who was actually into show choir. Now right before schools starts sophomore year I get invited to your birthday party. That was a stressful time for me because I had no clue what to get you. Then I realized a necklace would be perfect and I sat down on the computer and looked at the necklaces for the one I think you would like. Then I found it a small silver necklace that screamed perfect at me. Well i went to your party and gave you the necklace.
Which you said you liked but in my mind I thought you would never wear it. Well camp rolls around and schools starts. It was a normal year I had my new lover Wyatt and I was finally one of the boys with the creation of the four horsemen. But the thing that really stuck with me was that you actually wore the necklace I got you and that was amazing to me. We also talked a lot more and in general got a lot closer. During that time though I started felling something towards you. Something weird. Something I didn't feel with Phoebe
at the time. Then time went on and that feeling only got bigger and stronger. Then the musical came and with it came Hunter. We all were telling you things about him and I'll admit me saying things was a little out of jealousy, nevertheless they were still true. But I had told everyone and this point I had a crush on you. It wasn't anything big but it was there. Well then came the period where I still liked you but you were with Hunter and me Ash. Well then Hunter cheated and I was there to help you. I held you when you cried and talked to you also. I was with you through and through I knew how much Hunter hurt you and being there for you only made my crush larger. Every time you cried or the times when you doubted yourself you were always gorgeous to me and I never thought differently of you for anything. Even when you thought about maybe forgiving Hunter. Then I broke up with Ashley. I was now alone and I was ok with that. But the longer time went on after I broke up with her the more I started thinking about you. That like 2-3 month period shoulda have been when said all this but I couldn't. I wasn't only terrified but I also never thought it was the right time. You weren't eating, and then you would be sick, and you wouldn't tell me things and I was worried. Then school was getting ready to end and I found out through the grape vine you were talking to Dylan. I immediately just shut off any feelings and emotions and I made myself forget because you were with another guy and I was 99.9% sure you had no interest in me (I still am) and you were gonna be with Dylan for a little while. I was happy you were happy. And I honestly really did just block everything out. Now Dylan cheated too and everything is back. I have no clue your status with him as of now and at this point I don't care. I just want this all out. Emily I really do like you. I'm not here to like beg you for a date or ask you out. I'm not here for that at all. I'm here because I am 99.9% sure you already know and I just want it out on the table so no matter what happens it's not the elephant in the room with us. I honestly do like you and I am glad I finally worked up the courage to just say it. Emily no matter what anyone says you are so amazing, compassionate, kind, gorgeous, and the list can go on. Now it's just about to be junior year. After this year we only have one year left and after that who knows what's going to happen. I have screwed up a lot in my life but not this time. I'm not gonna let this just skim by for the next two years I'm addressing it now. I don't expect anything to change I don't expect you are just gonna be wooed. Because you won't be and things probably won't change and honestly I'll come to accept that. I don't need a response anytime soon. Just whenever you want to you have my number."
(Her response)
"I really love you Brandon. But as of right now, as a friend. And you know that. Even tho I haven't talked to you a lot this summer you're still one of my bestfriends. And he didn't cheat. But I know you're always there for me and we'll just see where thing a go. But I really appreciate you saying this to me. Honestly I really do"
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
No. I don't think you 'have a chance'. Definitely not now, and probably not ever. You seem to believe she's never really had those sorts of feelings about you—there is no reason to think that will magically change.
If you really value her friendship, you need to truly accept that. You say that you've accepted that, but if you're still coming to a website like this asking what she meant, and if you have a chance... then you haven't. You haven't' fully let this go, and fully letting this go, is the respect she deserves right now.
There is nothing confusing about what she said. She said no. She tried to do it gently, and spare your feelings, but it was clearly, 100% a No.
The only thing that is left to see here, is whether or not you can be respectful of her and still be her friend, or if that is something you are not capable of doing.
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From her response I would say she sees you more as a friend, the guy next door or even as a brother. The chances of the two of you being romantically involved is extremely slim.
My advice is to move on and find yourself another girlfriend. Fact is these are just high school romances. In a few years you will all graduate and go off to different colleges and make new friends, meet new girls and most likely meet the girl you will marry.
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