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He says he does not have unprotected sex with anyone. What does this mean?
I have been seeing this guy for almost 2 months and him and I have occasional sex. The very first time we used protection and went to the clinic and both came out clean. Every other time since then has been unprotected and he has came in me twice. I am on the Mirena IUD but my doctor has said she cannot locate it and I have an ultrasound appt soon. He says he does not have unprotected sex with anyone as he has not practiced it so why is he doing it with me. What does this mean?
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I think that the guy in your situation got his answers about both of you coming back clean so he does not have the need to use condoms. Does he know your on the mirena? If he does then this is why im assuming he is not being as careful because he knows your being on birth control. Once you let a guy have unsafe sex once, and he cums insides you once its going to becoming a repeat. He is being very immature and not aware of his future. Condoms are always the best answer. For next time i would suggest using condoms for the safety of pregnancy and express your concerns. Hope this helps xoxo
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Well, what is definitely does mean that he is the kind of person who will say one thing, and then do another.
Other than that, it's impossible to say.
It's tempting to think that your relationship is special to him somehow, because he's willing to have unprotected sex with you, but claims he isn't doing it with others.
It's even possible that is true—but it's more likely that he's just not 100% truthful about his sexual activities and the choices he had made or is making.
In your shoes, I'd be insisting on condom use until I had done two things. First, had a very serious conversation with him about his sexual choices and sexual exclusivity. If a young man doesn't want to be sexually exclusive with me, then he must, 100%, always, wear a condom. For me, there is no flexibility on that. In your shoes, I'd also expect any of my male partners to wear a condom if I was uncertain my IUD was working correctly.
Any man who want not comfortable and respectful of those two, very reasonable, utterly legitimate boundaries, would be a man I would not have sex with or any sort of romantic relationship with. I don't sleep with people who don't take my health seriously.
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I can't tell you exactly what it means since I don't know him or you for that matter. what I can tell you is guys don't like condoms, especially latex condoms because it reduces the feeling they get in their penis.
My advice is never to trust a guy who will not offer you the protection of wearing a condom in a relationship as young as yours. If you were living together and you knew for certain that he was not having sex with anyone else then you could consider having unprotected sex after being tested again.
Also the IUD is not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy and yours is not where it is suppose to be so you may not have any protection from it.
The IUD plus a condom is your best protection against pregnancy. Remember your the one that gets pregnant not him so you decide how much protection you what against an unwanted pregnancy. That plus the condoms offer protection against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus.
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