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Blood coming from vagina after masterbating?
Im a 15 y/o female and I started masterbating quite young, but about 6 or 7 months ago I started using the ends of sharpies. Earlier today I was masterbating with 2 sharpies, once I was finished and I looked at them I noticed that they had some brownish-red looking blood on them. I went to the bathroom and grabbed some toilet paper and tried to clean myself, they too had some blood. It wasnt a lot lot, but enough to be alarming and be like "hey, somthings not right here". There was no pain and I haven't started my period yet, so it cant be that. I also dont think it was my hymen, I think I broke that a long time ago or maybe I just wasnt born with one. Even if it was my hymen (probably not) why would I now just start bleeding when I have fingered myself and used sharpies in the past? Either way, I am worried that it might be something big or it might get Infected. I also really dont want to tell my mom because its embarrassing even though I know that masterbating is perfectly normal and she most likely does it too. So if anyone can help me figure this out and what I can do, or if its something worse, a way to tell my mom it was an "accident" would be greatly appreciated.
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I wanted to recommend a site to you and your mother designed by professional sex-educators and staffed by them that includes 100% factual articles, essays and forum where teens and parents can get answers and facts about sexuality and can be anonymous. It's called Scarleteen. www.scarleteen.com. I would use it to open up a dialogue about sex and any topic related to it with her.
Dragonfly gave you excellent and thorough advice which I won't rehash. I wanted to add that since you have been doing this since a very young age that no doubt she may have inadvertently noticed or probably figures you do as it's pretty much universal with your age group with hormones etc.
Also, society tends to equate masturbation with sex but it's not like that. When young people begin as you did it could be about something comforting, something that felt good or relieved stress and as puberty and adulthood set in be about hormones, sexual thoughts etc.
You mom won't be phased by any of this. I think the only thing tat would upset her is that you were quite scared, didn't know what to do and felt you couldn't approach her. She would be happy you found sound advice though but you should approach her about anything. Believe me with drugs, sex and all kind of other problems parents need to worry over this ranks low.
I don't know how she will feel about novelty items but I'm sure she would want you using something clean and safe and meant for this practice than not. Anyways, I think the resource above will help you both be able to talk about sexuality easier.
Although you are 15-years-old and probably have had sex-ed classes you might find the Lynda Madaras books What's Happening To My Body which has an edition for boys and one for girls very helpful too. I would get both books as it explains a lot of things easily.
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Here;s my guess: As a female, I can assure you that any time I saw brown to brownish red blood either spotting in panties or on fingers or dildo, it was a sign that my period was delayed. The flow doesnt come except for a little bit that is brownish. Lots of things can delay a period, so that is nothing to worry about.
If you masturbate often and its never happened before, then its just a coincidence that your period happens to be late so you saw the brownish blood.
Also note that females tend to feel more horny closer to their period. It could be the hormones that make you have a cycle to begin with, that are the cause. In fact, plenty of women will still be horny during their period and masturbating is perfectly fine and normal at this time too.
You say you felt no pain. Pain or discomfort of some degree is an indicator when you have somehow scratched the tender flesh just outside or inside the vagina. Not having enough lube is a way to pull at the drier skin either as the entrance or inside and you attempt the friction with whatever you are using. toy or even with a partner. I still get that at some point, needing to reapply during sex. Either I or my husband will feel a burning tearing sensation which is a warning to use more lube. Rubbing too hard and too fast can make you sore and tender, and feel like an abrasion, but with both situations, one can't visibly see any nor see even a drop of blood.
The only blood will come from the elastic like skin around the circumferance of vagina/ the hymen not being stretched out slowly, and a male partner or a too large toy jammed in quite suddenly with force. That will most always tear the hymen or skin anywhere on the walls of the vagina. Lastly, blood, only a few drops of spottng may come if your cervix has been pounded directly on for too long, this from a toy but if Your'e operating the top, its not as likely as you can feel when its too hard. Its when a partner is handling the toy or the penis during sex is doing the jackhammer move, like its breaking up concrete. It may feel good and you may not even feel tender or sore later tho some do.
Now about the objects you are using to masturbate with. Anything not created for masturbating could possibly scratch or hurt you. However what is more likely and is also the case with many types of dildos and vibrators is the actual material it is made of. Certain objects are porous, even tho you can't see that except under a microscrope. Plastics are notorious for this. So
the fluids from your body, even if you clean the object, some can remain and its when what remains on the object long enough, can eat its way into the plastics or wood or rubber of whatever stuff we're talking about. Bacteria can form on the object or dildo and when you later reinsert on another day, you are transfering germs into your vaginal area. The safest substance to use without needing a special cleaning ritual is a dildo made of pyrex. As a glass like substance, germs cant linger and it can be cleaned with soap and water. For other rubbery/plastic type of toys, sex shops will sell a special kind of cleaner to use on your toys immediately after use. If you forget and clean hours later or such, germs will have had a chance to grow and eat into the rubber or plastic.
So i would suggest a proper sex toy. Since you are a minor, you can't enter a sex toy store to get one yourself and the law is that you are barred from such a place because of the fact that xrated movies are sold there. However if you can get your toys through other channels, there is no law you can't purchase or own one.
Easiest would be to ask Mom to get you one. I volunteered to get them for my girls and my sister just placed a small body massager in daughters bedroom to use externally for clit, not internally. If you cant talk to Mom, if you have your own money to get one, ask an older sister who is legally able to go purchase one at a shop, or they can be ordered on line, no age restriction that I know of. Then then are also pharmacies that sell body massage items. Non meant to be inserted but smaller hand held models can be used to massage the clit for orgasm and you don't have to be a certain age to purchase something labeled a 'massager'. I've heard of girls who say they have used the vibrating handle of a toothbrush without the brush part attached to use only on the clit. I have no idea how well that works. Lastly, there are other odd stores, usually the kind selling novelty items that may carry a dildo or two. A store in my area that does this is called Spencers gifts.
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Two things you need to know.
1. Putting foreign objects such as a sharpie in your vagina is a big no no. Most likely you have scraped the wall of your vagina causing it to bleed or you have partially ruptured your Hymen. Most sharpies are not long enough to have hit your cervix. The cap on the sharpie is sharp enough that repeated stroking of the sharpie could cause an abrasion which may be the cause of your bleeding. If you are going to use anything to masturbate with it should be something with a blunt and rounded end to it like a dildo or vibrator.
2. At 15 if you need to see a doctor because of this. By a Law called HIPPA you can do so without parental knowledge or permission. Congress in passing this law put in a provision for young people ages 14 and up that says when it comes to their Reproductive system they may see a doctor of their choice without parental knowledge. Furthermore medical records for any procedure that includes examination or treatment of their reproductive system is confidential and parents may not view them without your written consent to the doctor.
Once you say to the doctor I want my rights under HIPPA you can not be forced to undergo any examination or treatment of your reproductive system. Your mother cannot be in the exam room with you during an exam.
Congress wrote this law for just such a reason as you have so you would seek medical assistance when too embarrassed to speak to your parents about something of this nature. You may go to any doctor, women's clinic or ER for treatment.
With this in mind you do not need to tell you mom anything. All you need do is call your doctor and make an appointment. Don't forget to tell your doctor you want this covered under HIPPA as this will mean he cannot tell mom why you were there when she gets the EOB from the insurance company.
All you need to say is you weren't feeling well and went to see the doctor.
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