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Sex outside the marriage
I was wondering how common it is for a husband who wants his wife to have sex with other men and a wife as in my case actually does do it. During the last several years I have had sex with several men at my husband's request. The past two years I have been with the same lover and am intimate with him several times a week. I have, with my lover's permission, created several videos of us having sex and my husband has watched them prior to us having sex. I would have never imagined that I would have ever done something like this however it is enjoyable for me and am glad I agreed to it.
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Its as mentioned, as long as between consenting adults and one doesnt feel forced into doing something they don't really want or like, then it is fine, no matter what one does.
It would be difficult to track how many married couples actually do this as not all would be willing to make it known or admit to it.
For a while, I attended a swing club with my husband, and it was at his suggestion. I had my doubts but once I jumped in, I actually enjoyed it far more than he did. Often I did ask other couples whose idea it was first, to start down this path and surprisingly, the majority of wives or girlfriends were the ones who came up with the idea and had to convince their guys. Just to give a number, it was usually 8 out of 10 where the female initiated this.
There are not many places that offer nice clean well run facilities, so most resort to the internet for sites like Swappernet to find other couples if it is to be both mates switching partners for fun. It is also common in these circles to find people who just like to watch others live, engaging in sex, or watch their mate with another, soft swing which is everything but penetration, females who are bi sexual going after each other,(they have husbands but want sex with females only for the sex outside of marriage. Then there's a step further to something called polyamory which doesnt stop at sex so its just a lover, but a person you become involved in doing other stuff with as well but keeping your core relationship/marriage stable and healthy at same time.
This is called polyamory. It basically means more than one love, so having other people that you love. Yes, you have sex with and they are your lovers, but unlike swinging where it stops at lovers, this has the potential of being another full fledged relationship in all matters just like the one with the husband/wife or your domestic partner, but the big difference is that there is genuine love for the extra partner/partners. In this arena you will find all sorts of combinations in relationships, whatever you can imagine, it likely exists. The most common is triads, or one couple both interested in the same partners of another couple or each one finding their own partners, single or married, on their own. But the one important thing is that all poly relationships are not hidden from each other, no sneaking behind backs which is cheating then, but having the full knowledge and consent of current partner to be with someone else.
At least, now you know that you're not the only one.
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How common is this? The word common is rather encompassing I would rather say it is not all that unusual especially as fantasy. Most men fantasize about sex with two women. Some fantasize about watching their wives or girlfriends having sex with strangers or friends of theirs. Then their are some like your husband that actually want their wives to have sex with strangers or have a lover.
When it comes to sex question I have one answer I include in all answers. As long as you are two consenting adults, the operative word is consenting. There. is nothing weird or strange about what happens in the privacy of one's own bedroom. If one partner says no then it doesn't happen. No is no and stop is stop. Even married couples can refuse a sex act and can say stop. IF forced or continued and one partner says no or stop it is rape.
It does not matter how common what you are doing is. what matters is that you voluntarily consent to doing this for him. Once you have consented it matters not whether anyone or everyone is doing it.
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Cuckolding or wife-sharing is a rather common fantasy for men to report having. Some studies have even shown it to be the most common fantasy out there among men, even above things like threesomes with two women... So thinking about this is not uncommon for husbands.
Of course, that doesn't mean a very large number of couples actually act on those fantasies. Some, probably even most, people enjoy their fantasies in their own mind far more than they enjoy actually acting them out in real life.
As long as you are all consenting and safe, there is no reason not too.
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