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i need advice about talking to my mom
I am almost 14 a girl and have been asking for an allowance since I was 10 or 11. My mom keeps telling me 'as soon as you start helping around here you might get paid or another remark that gets us nowhere. I am fine with no allowance but she doesn't let me earn money from her or anyone, I ask to babysit the little kid next door and she says no I try to ask her and no, no, no, what do you need money for. Well I'll tell u what I need money for. Today she took my early bday gift a 35 dollar gift card to buy food because she is wasting her money on weed so how do I reason with her do I go behind her back
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You are living in a bad situation one where you need to step up and protect the little ones. If you live in a state where weed is not legal to posses then mom is breaking the law by possessing it and having it in the house. If for any reason the police come to the house and find the weed things can get very bad very quickly.
Do you have any Aunts, Uncles or Grandparents you can call to tell them mom is buying weed instead of food. I would think if you were to tell a relative this they would step in to make sure you and your sisters are safe.
If you do not have any relatives to call or do not know how to contact them; then you have to take charge to protect yourself and your sisters even though it might hurt to do so. You need to contact Child Protective services. (CPS) There are several ways you can do this.
1. Call 911 and tell them that mom spends more money on weed then food. That she took your money to buy food because she spent her money on weed.
2. Gather up your sisters and go to the nearest Police or fire station. These are safe havens for children. Explain about mom and there being more weed than food in the house. They will contact CPS. CPS will try to find your relatives or your dad to take you in as a group.
3. You are old enough that you can contact CPS yourself. You will find there number listed under you local or state government listings.
I'm actually old enough to be your grandfather and while I'm sure you love you mother. I can't be certain how much she may love you or your sisters when she puts buying weed in front of putting food on the table, giving you multiple dads to deal with or uprooting you and moving you about when the whim hits her. This is not good parenting, she brought you into this world and she is responsible to see to it at the very minimum that you have clean clothes, a decent place to sleep good food and good medical. You and your sisters come first, she comes last that is what parenting is all about.
Please follow my advice you deserve better.
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