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I'm wondering if I should give my company a courtesy 2 week notice that I will be leaving or not. I feel extremely uncomfortable at my work place. I moved in with a coworker of mine about 3-4 months ago and she moved her boyfriend in without telling me and we got into ONE argument about me feeding a stray dog at the house we're renting and they were relentless about not letting the issue go. && quite frankly even before the issue I was no longer comfortable with her boyfriend living there because he was domineering towards me when it came to taking care of the dogs and cleaning the kitchen. He had no sense of respect when he spoke to me so I got sick of it and I told her after the argument that he couldn't live here anymore. So she said okay. And then later she comes back to tell me that her and michael are living together because she loves him. So I said okay, I don't care I'm over the situation, but they weren't because they kept bringing up the situation and making it into a bigger deal then it was. Eventually we talked about how he was speaking towards me and telling me to do this and that without asking me. I told her that it bugged me because that's the different between demanding something from someone and giving them the choice to do it or not. && She said he was wrong and she shouldn't have done that. Okay, that doesn't matter because he's the one that owes me an apology, not her. & Then she demanded an apology from me. These people are so incredibly passive aggressive and I have no idea how to handle them because I'm a straightforward type of person. While I lived with them they were racist towards me and kept speaking in asian accents and telling me that when I take out their dog to make sure to put the harness back on the lead because they dont want to get dirt on it. && Then when I giggled at the fact that they had fancy utensils her boyfriend said, yeah we white folks are fancy like that. I wasn't going to say anything back because I was not trying to instigate the issue any further but sure man, you're really fancy when you need a pretty piece of metal to leave your mouth when your bed is on the floor and the living room and kitchen is a mess and covered with all of your shit. Whatever.
After I moved out I asked her to keep what happened between us out of the workplace and being as the situation was, I had to move back home with my parents since I couldn't find a place in the short amount of time that she gave me to move out. I decided that it would be better to leave the company and give them a 2 week notice. I went and spoke with HR and she asked me to stay instead and that they can work the hours out and to have me come in one day a week instead of 3. (I'm a college student and I'm currently interning with them)
HR calls me a couple of days later to confirm if that was a good schedule for me so I said yes. But it's been about a month since the incident and I think that the issue that happened between her and I are surfacing at work because I can see my coworkers giving me dirty looks for no particular reason when I haven't interacted with them. I can't imagine what kind of stories she made up behind my back to get them to look at me like that. I'm discussed with her and for anyone who even sides with her.
I'm so tired of this company. I'm just an intern and I would hope that my supervisor is more competent about his job then me && He's not. At all. I pointed out several mistakes that took place on our project and he ignored it until he took it to HIS supervisor, and was told that those corrections need to be made. I walked in on a conversation of 4-5 people yesterday and everyone stops talking and looks at me. One girl blatantly laughs out laugh and stops immediately as if she let it out by accident. The more I look at this company the more disgusted I am with it. All of these people who work here are white with the exception of a handful (if even) of people of diversity. Where this company advertises that it's a minority owned company (certainly it is owned by a woman), most of the employees here are white and men.
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I seems to me that it all came down to the fact that this co worker and her boyfriend wanted to be in the apartment by themselves. They probably didnt know how to say it to you, so they made mountains out of mole hills until you finally moved out. Now I do believe the other stuff is you being just a tad self conscious. If you really like the company and what you do there aside from these coworkers, stay. If you do not really care about the company and them giving you a referral for your next job, then who cares about the two week notice. Do what makes you happy and comfortable. And if you are friends with these other co workers, just go up and talk to them. Most of the time, there is just a big misunderstanding. Good Luck!
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It's always better to give two weeks notice.
Certainly, you should quit, but you should also take a deep breath and recognize a lot of this bullshit it outside of your control, and that you shouldn't lower yourself their level in even the smallest ways. You know you are being bullied and unfairly judged, but snapping back in any way isn't going to make that better, it's just going to be used to justify the bad behavior.
Not giving that simple courtesy can come back and bite you in the ass. Unless you are being openly abused or are in fear for your safety, I'd recommend you give the two weeks and then grin and bear it.
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