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telling friends about my crush
I (17 F) have a great group of 4 best friends. They are my only friends, and the only friends I need because they are so loving and supportive. Except for one thing: we never talk seriously about boys. We have a couple of times, but only in a hypothetical manner, like what do you think is cute, or what qualities do you like.
The problem is, I have a crush on this guy. I've had this crush for a few years. I told my friends once near the beginning, and they laughed and told me we would make an awkward couple. (They actually had some logical reasoning...I'm 5'8 and at the time he was only 5'3 ish and super skinny....but he's grown!)
Since then, every time we have a sleepover, we ask "does anyone have anything new they have to tell us?" (meaning in the context of boys), but no one ever says anything. I have told myself that i'm not lying to them by being quiet because I told them when my crush was a new thing, and its not new anymore
The problem is, now I want to tell them because I want advice from them, but I don't know how, because I've been hiding this crush from them for 3 years.
I'm just scared that they're going to make fun of me or be mad at me or something. Even though I would trust these girls with my life, I can't seem to trust them with this bit of information...
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Well hello there, first of girl I personally know how hard it is to tell your friends about your crush.As that is one secret thats dear to you.
If I could give you advise it would be to ask yourself are they truly your close friends or not? Because honestly if they were that close they would know about him. Also tell you mum if you close to her, I promise she has the best advise ❤❤ and you know what be your own judge girll 💁 if you want something go get it, you never know unless you tried it? Right... It's your life you do what you want 🙋🙋 Know atleast there are 2 people supporting you in your decision ME AND YOU AND YOU AGAIN
Best of luck 💅
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The best way to beat fear is to face it. That means doing the thing you are so afraid of doing. Fear is a big bully in appearance but when you face it, will go running away never to come back again.
I am not sharing that to tell you that you have to tell them, only if you want to. A friend should be someone you can trust to understand and give encouraging words rather than tease, make insignificant or tear you down. This one event years ago is still holding you in fear of their laughter. Think on it. You said he's changed and grown over time, its likely that your girlfriends have also grown, maturing in personality and more. This same fear you have of them is going to hold you back from approaching and talking to this guy to invite him to hang out with you with a specific date and some activities mentioned. It is also fear that keeps many guys from noticing a girl and vice versa. The shy, quiet ones with lack of self confidence just don't stand out in a crowd. I know, cus I used to be like that.
Self confidence goes a long way to getting noticed but you'd still need to make some move to talk to him. If he's not dating anyone officially then he's free game, go for it.
If you want to boost your self confidence, let me know and I'll give you a trick that worked for me.
Good luck.
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