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Showing you love him
How can you show him you love him besides kissing and no sex ? What other way ?
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This is my opinion, please only take from it what resonates with you and what you think will honestly help.
In my opinion, showing someone you love them has a lot to do with the internal aspect a lot more than the external. I don’t know what you do and don’t do already to show love for him and the other way around other than what you have already stated. So I will do my best to give advice based off of that. Generally speaking in my own opinion, feeling love for someone on the inside generally will show itself on the outside when you are near or interacting with this person whether you intentionally show it or not. That in itself should show him that you love him. When you combine this with showing love through physical ways such as kissing, hugging, even a hand on the shoulder, should likely show it more so.
I would keep in mind that this is a two way street. You can show love for someone, as to whether they accept it is up to the other. I should mention that I feel that when both individuals freely share and accept love from and to one another, that in my experience problems seem to melt away. Trust, openness, and honesty are also key points in this. If you feel that you would like to find more ways to love him, I would recommend just making time to talk to each other about what each other could do to help this in the most open and honest way you both can if you haven’t already. Regardless, just have faith, hope, trust, and keep loving him and things should turn out well.
Thank you for reading this.
~Sofetios
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Glad you asked. Most people have one way that they strongly will sense they are loved with a lesser secondary way that also works. What most of us do however is to show love the way that we like to be shown love which may differ from ones partner.
So there is a test you can take. I recommend you both sit down by computer, each with your own pen and sheet of paper.
The test is about the 5 Love languages, written by Gary CHapman. He has a test online. At the top of link i will give, is a box if you click on will take you to a test. Read below first the basics of the different love languages.
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So even if lets say, he feels loved strongest by quality time together and you feel loved if recieving gifts, you may be tempted to shower him with gifts cus it feels comfortable and familiar to you but he may not feel really loved unless he is recieving quality time with you.
Just to avoid confusion, you already mentioned sex and kissing, and Physical touch as a love language is about more than just what happens in the bedroom. This is the touchy feely person who will feel loved when getting hugs, pats on shoulder, hand holding, etc.
Hope you enjoy it. Both of you need to take turns doing the test. I suggest you tell him you'd like for both of you to do this and hopefully he'll want to. If only you take the test, then you'll only confirm how you like being shown love. SHow him your results and then ask if he'd take the test to see how accurate it is, as it will help you to show him love in the ways that are most meaningful besides sex.
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