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Same Clothes Everyday
Hi! I'm a high school girl in need of some advice. For whatever reason, I wear basically the same thing everyday. Every single day, I wear the same black leggings and my jacket, alternating between two or three different t-shirts. The thing is, I physically CANNOT wear anything else. I've tried wearing jeans, and I always end up putting my leggings on first period (I bring them for gym) because it's too stressful for me to wear anything other than my set clothes. Recently, I tore a hole in the leggings, and I was so depressed for that whole week until I went to the exact same store and bought the exact same leggings. If I wear anything else, I have mental breakdowns beacause I feel like I look ridiculous. It's really wearing away at me.
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Im with Dragonfly on this one, but i DO think you need to just try to walk into different stores and just TRY on different things. Even if you dont buy any of them, this will help you to start getting your own tastes down.
The other thing is that clothes ALWAYS look different on the hanger or whatever then they do on you. So you JUST need to try things on. its OK to walk into stores and not buy anything, your free to do that.
Its ok that your typically comfortable in one type of clothes then the other right now too.
your gonna be fine. Try some new things, walk into some new stores you wouldnt normally.....; )
good luck
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This made me smile remembering one of one daughters in high school. Her entire wardrobe was blue, no other color and jeans and tops, nothing else. It wasn't until a few years later she decided she was ready to try out other clothing. There is something to be said about clothes that are easy, fuss free, comfortable and you look good in. So I see no reason for you to worry about having a small wardrobe of things you will wear. If you think it may be the sameness of the look that might be boring you, then try to come up with ways to change just how you accessorize. If you wear any kind of hat, a baseball cap, let it be different ones, earrings can change while an outfit stays the same, socks and shoes can change if you are comfortable with several different pairs, if you wear a belt, it can change too, to fit the outfit. I know some gals while my kids were in high school, crocheted their own beanie style hats to wear and in different colors to go with different outfits. Or if a certain scarf would go with a tee, try that.
I do think it sounds from what you said that you have only the one pair of leggings. That is not enough if this is all you wear and it would give stress to any female trying to have a wardrobe with only one pair of wearable pants/leggings. You need to speak to Mom about what you are comfortable wearing and perhaps putting your minds together , you can come up with a way to fund getting more pairs. I would think if you have tons of clothes you're not wearing, that having a garage sale to sell them at and lettng your friends know, might bring in some money to get leggings. I know that in some brands and styles, leggings can be found in lots of dark colors. Black of course goes with everthing. But a navy blue, dark green and dark grey could give you a few other choices. And 4 pairs to switch between will make it less stressful.
If Mom is worried about you not liking jeans, and insisting on using what you have, then you may want to share my opinion on jeans and slacks for females. It isn't always the overweight women who have a hard time finding pants that fit well, are comfortable and one looks good in them. I am a size small and am short. I still have a hard time in my fifties finding jeans that fit my waist and bottom well and don't pinch and bind at the crotch. All makers of jeans have a set style of how they cut the jeans that will be the same as long as their brand name is on it. I've learned some things by spencing lots of time at 2nd hand stores trying on all the brands in my size to get an idea of what brand fits me. You are still young and your adult female body in 10 yrs may look quite different and you may find that there finally is a brand with a cut you look good in. If the waist fits, the bottom looks terrible on me. If the bottom fits well, the waist doesn't, of the legs are too thin and tight, meant for girls with pencil legs and I do not have big thighs, I am petite. It wasn't until maybe 2 decades ago I finally learned that all the Gloria Vanderbilt pants seem to be almost tailor made for me and fit me perfects, no matter which one I pull off the rack. I also have found that some of the Lee's jeans will fit good too. And I make sure the fabric has spandex in them or I don't even try them on. There is no rush for you to figure out other leg wear that fits now, as it may be for you a journey like it was for me, where I accidently tried something that worked and worked well each time. Let Mom know that as you grow older, your taste will change a little in clothes and you may wear more variety. I had 3 girls and they all wore their favorite stuff as teens which to me looked all the same, every day. As long as you're covered, warm and following school or work dress codes, then all is well. Next time you have thoughts of worry about how you are with clothes, take time to tell yourself that theres nothing wrong with it, its perfectly normal and you have good reasons to not like wearing jeans or other tops, mainly due to what feels comfortable and looks good to you. The longer you dwell on your negative thoughts without doing something about it like telling yourself this is normal, you will begin to feel badly, maybe even depressed and it will be all because of your own thoughts and not learning to discipline them. I wish you the best dear.
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