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Personality Disorder???
(I guess this would go with mental health?)
Please do not just say it's because I'm a teen, or because it's a phase.
I'm 16 years old, and I don't know if this would quite classify as a personality disorder as I have not done much research.
Everyone I know would describe me as quick witted and majorly sarcastic. I would describe my sarcasm as rude... Whenever someone says something, I'm immediately coming up with something to say back, inappropriate or not, I will say it. And I will not hold back what I have to say. Impulsivity maybe.
The people around me laugh, and say, "Wow I wish I could do that." Almost thinking that being rude is a gift or something.
I have A.D.D it runs in the family, and I've noticed it's getting worse.
I'm also extremely antisocial. I have two people in my life who I consider friends.
What I'm wanting to know is how I can stop myself from saying such things, and maybe train myself to... not be the way I am.
I don't even know if that's possible. (I've been this way my whole life.)
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There is nothing about this that sounds like a personality order and I'll agree with Razhie that it still wouldn't hurt to see a counselor. See, a conselor can help you discover why you do this. People don't all of a sudden start doing something new for no reason, even habits, good or bad. The tricky thing is that your conscious mind may have no idea what the cause is but your subconscious mind where all your emotions live, is most likely causing you to do this behavior and has what it deems a reasonable idea for doing so.This is why a counselor would be my first choice here.
I figure you dont want to see a counselor and I know how hard it is to change a bad habit but if you can stop a habit for a month, you are likely to never repeat it. So if you want to wing it on your own, try this: when the urge hits to say something sarcastic, take a deep breath and count to 20 or to whatever number it takes for you to focus on until the urge passes. Or You could try this technique for stopping a bad habit, of wearing a rubber band on the wrist and everytime you are tempted to say something bad, start snapping the rubberband against your wrist, with enough force to sting so you are distracted by it or associate pain with the delivering of your sarcasm. If you need more ideas, perhaps a book of how to stop a bad habit would be helpful or even an online search for how to stop a bad habit and choose what speaks to you and sounds do-able.
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Probably not a personality disorder. Not based on what you've described here.
What you've described are some really bad habits. Both bad habits inside your own mind, and bad habits coming out of your mouth. When a habit it strong enough it can feel like it's just 'the way you are', but it's still just a habit. Habits can be broken.
Although I know it's not what you want to hear, the truth is that a lot of teenagers at about your age start to realize that they don't want to be selfish and shitty to other people. It's a pretty normal part of human development. Most people reach a point as a teenager or a young adult where they begin to pull their head out of their own ass and consider how to be kind to others. Not, how to be everyone's best friend, just how to not be hurtful.
Now, just because I don't think it's reasonable to call this a personality disorder, doesn't mean a counsellor or therapist couldn't help you come up with techniques and tools to manage your own reactions and be more thoughtful when you speak. Sarcasm is usually cause by a clever—but fearful—mind. You'll need to practice kindness and learn some confidence to break this pattern of speaking.
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