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Friends forgot about my birthday?
So you've probably seen some of my questions about how I don't have any real friends and today being my birthday just proves what kind of friends I have. I don't hype up my birthday because if you're my friend you would've remembered like I get it sometimes you have a lot on your mind and forget but this happens every single year, if I don't tell me friends "hey today's my birthday" or if I don't text them the day before "tomorrow's my birthday" I won't get a birthday wish. The only person that's not in my family that wished me a happy birthday was this girl who I don't even talk to anymore, we drifted apart I tried keeping the friendship with her but she stopped cause she has more relatable friends now. Every time it's my friends birthdays I always remember to wish them and even try to make it special for them but for me they don't do anything other people get texts and stuff at midnight on their birthdays I got only one from that girl so I let it slide at that time now it's nearly 12 noon ad literally nothing how much you wanna bet if I say it's my birthday on snapchat they're all gonna message me happy birthday? What can I do about these friends? The ones I really wanted a happy birthday from I texted them a Happy NYE to see if they realize NYE equals my birthday cause they know that so far no reply yet. Don't say they may be planning a surprise cause they're not it happens every year even at my birthday party last year. The only time they treated me like it was my party was when it was time to cut the cake either than that it was like I was a guest at somebody else's party no one paid attention to me, when we took group photos I was pushed to the back when clearly the celebrant should be in the middle of the front, they would talk to each other no one would really try to talk to me they would leave in groups to go take pics no one wanted a pic with the bday girl. I turned 17 today
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Ok im gonna break this down for you piece by piece here because As an adult you will need to realize what im about to tell you, and the sooner you do, the better.
Firstly, understand, that not matter what happens in life, you need to make your own happiness and not rely on people around you to complete that, because if you do you will always be disappointed.
secondly, because of the day your b-day falls on, weather people have forgotten you or not, its new years eve. lol. So your b-day unfortunately falls on a very inconvenient day for most people, so you should assume they forgot about you because they didnt say anything, this whole time of the year is VERY busy both around xmas, and NYE. These peoples family members could be planning things like trips and your friends (if their underage) dont really have a choice in what happens yet depending on the family their from.
Your b-day being over shadowed because it falls on or around another major holiday (two actually) this is a very common problem, and it doesnt ALWAYS make your friends "not really your friends" or uncaring because of it.
Sure theres always the fact that people are busy during this time of year, or the possibility that those people really dont care, but at the end of the day, its YOUR day and ON that day, being able to simply do something for yourself that YOU wanna do (where as you normally wouldnt) is going to have to be enough. Youll discover that as you get older, this is the case with adults. Life is not a fairytale, its not what you see on tv, and its not ever going to go the way you think it will.
Give yourself something special for your birthday, show other people that you dont NEED them to make you happy, and usually people will be MORE attracted because they see someone who is in control, and will run their life as they see fit and have a good time with or without them and they will want to "go with you" and will "regret" having not thought of you or remembered see? lol.
If you do something cool for yourself, this shows everyone that "they could have been there, had they hit you up and/or remembered" that it was your bday. Dont let the fact that they didnt acknowledge your day effect you when they speak to you about it and just play it off, act like its fine and then mention something cool that YOU went and did WITHOUT them and that your OK and HAPPY about it and the next time they will WANT to be there. ; )
good luck.
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First of all, I am so sorry this has happened to you. I can imagine how upsetting that would be for you.
I would say that you should tell your friends how you feel about this. If they don't react well to the fact that you are upset about this, they aren't being very good friends.
If this is the case, I think you should make some new friends. I'm not saying you should stop being friends with them, but just try to make new friends.
I hope this helped. Happy 17th Birthday. You are special, and someday you will find good friends who remember your birthday and not only make you feel special then, but feel special everyday.
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