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I don't understand his behaviour does he like me or what?
Hi, known him for few months and we work together. Nice person. We joke and flirt now and then but he's like that to everyone. He sometimes sings me to when he sees me and the other day same thing happened, he sang to me getting closer and I told my colleague, he loves me jokingly and he immediately said, I do and I just looked at him, he was just looking at right at me then we just smiled. Mens opinion, please.
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I work somewhere where the ages of employees range from 20 to 50s. Older men are very subtle if they like or admire a women and same for flirting. Then again, there's also ones particular personality that can make it seem like one male likes a gal more than others. I even can draw on many of my past jobs too where I traveled between departments and had to speak with many other employees on a regular basis, many of them men. I was married then, still am now to someone new, but It didn't prevent some guys from seriously flirting just for the fun of it. So good a flirt, that they can be mistaken for being serious if you didnt know better. I was old enough to have some experience and could see through it that it was all for fun and not serious. And yes, this was guys who were like that with any other females who were friendly and outgoing and liked to talk and laugh and sometimes tease their coworkers, females included. I didnt notice guys waste efforts flirting with the women who were shy, quiet and introverts who didn't chat friendly like unless it involved strictly their job. I have had some guys bump into me and so I bump back into them and then it became a bump each other type of flirt as we had to travel down the same hallway between cubicles. I have had a few guys actually make up a rhyme about me and do it in a singsong type of style. It never meant anything to them seriously and It didn't to me. Flirting can be done just for fun or it can be used to let the person you like have a clue that you seriously want to get to know them and maybe start a relationship with you. I assume that like me, you must be easy to approach and chat with, friendly, outgoing and have a good sense of humor and all around fun to be with and that is enough reason for a guy to flirt with you among the others too. Liking someone as a friend or coworker is quite a different like than being interested in as the opposite sex with the hope to get together.
I know you wanted a guy to answer and I'm sure you'll get that, but I felt it would be good to have a rounded out perspective with my response as well, from a female who is very open minded and also is very comfortable around males and prefers them as friends to women.
In the work environment where sexuall harassment is not tolerated and employees are taught to watch their manners, if a guy was serious about a female coworker, even flirting can be dangerous but as he has asked nothing of her, not even to go out with him, then most companies dont seem to have a problem as long as its not overt and constant and too out in the open obvious. Some females who did not like the guy or welcome any attention or invite to go out, could in some cases go overboard, freak out and tell the boss the guy was sexually harassing her. To me, that is a bit over the top. If a gal says no and he respects it, all is good. This tho is why some workplaces have a policy that one cant date another coworker. Where I currently work, the gal was transfered to work at another location simply because she and a male employee became a couple and met at work. Companys take this seriously. So the pressure on guys of wondering if their action may be taken wrong will prevent many who may truly be interested in taking further steps like asking you out. This may be a possibilty. Is he just shy? No. A shy person would not act as he does and be so outgoing and flirty...its not in their nature. As for the exchange about saying he loves you and him immediately saying I do, you cant assume that it is totally serious and means something. Yes it might but again it might not. I currently work with an entire staff who like to say outrageous things to make the other person laugh, to lighten up the fact that the work is hard. And I hear this kind of teasing in many forms every day. A new asst. manager who started same time and worked as long as I have there decided to see if she could startle me or scare me by her brand of teasing, outrageous negative stuff said with such a good poker face that an unsuspecting new hiree might take for serious could really freak a person out. I arrived for work one day and she immediately spoke to me saying that I was fired. My very quick response wasnt the look of shock she hoped for but "Oh goody" were my words which in turn had her jaw dropping. She asked why I would say that and I said, "State something outragous to me and I will respond with something outragous." Then I patted her shoulder saying, "Gotcha."
What is your womans intuition telling you. Its important to learn to sense when someone is serious or not so you don't miss out on something or get upset and take something seriously that wasnt meant that way, just a tease.
I love to tease people and am quite good at it. Not so when I was a teen or young adult. I had to learn how to do so.
Lastly, if you really like this guy and he's single and so are you and you would like to get to know him better away from work, then you might have to make the first move. But beware of your companies policies on dating in the office as it might require one of you losing your position there if you do become a couple and its not tolerated.
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Im not a man but ive had many guy friends throughout the years and he likes you...
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