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accidental sext
Hi I am a 14 year old boy. I met a girl 4 months ago and she has feelings for me and I guess I like her too.she has so many problems she has been through a tough break up and she lost a close friend who I like. I've been trying to bring them back together but while texting her to make her feel better. Because she has juristically changed. And she told me she isn't a virgin. And I freaked out and the conversation went on then I told her my sexual fedishes and she said she was getting horny then we continued and I came. She wanted to date after but that was an accident. And I didn't answer what should I do I haven't dated for years and tho is all new to me.
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I wouldn't worry too much about the accidental sexting or the fact you had what we adults would call an emission, fancy was of saying you came.
As for dating that is really hard to give advice on to someone your age. TO have an actual date is something you may not be ready for, from what you have written I can't make a judgment on that. This is something you will know. Dating will always be new to you until you actually start dating, when you do just be yourself. Be the guy who is texting; remember I said texting not the accidental sexting. This is the guy she wants to meet.
I would suggest you keep a first date or first couple of dates with any new girl in places that are not to intimate such as going bowling or ice skating. Someplace where there are other people around and you can talk and get to know one another.
As for sex as an adult and a parent I have to say you’re really too young and she is too. That fact that she is not a virgin does not mean you have to have sexual intercourse with her. Instead show her the respect of not trying to get into her pants.
I would suspect at her age the fact that she did have sex it was not totally consensual. In that I mean that the boy she had sex with may have said something to the effect, "You either have sex with me or I will find someone else" or "If you love me you will have sex with me." Either of these two lines will sometimes force a girl her age to have sex before they are really ready. Don't be that boy.
I know you will want sexual relief and she may want it too. Masturbation and mutual masturbation are the best and safest way to get sexual relief without the worry of pregnancy. Hand jobs and fingering are as far as either of you should go in having any type of sex for the next several years until you’re older and more mature.
If you haven't experienced it yet you will have to trust me when I tell you the sexual relief and the intimacy from mutual masturbation is almost the same as sexual intercourse and neither of you will be writing to us worried about her being pregnant.
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