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A girl that I have seen a future with.
I have meet this girl at my school and have known her for a while now, and have went on a date with her once then she called it off, due to a busy semester. I understood this but it really hurt and a couple of weeks later she asked if I wanted to date again and of course I said yes, and she has asked for us to take it slow and I understand completely, I don't understand by what she means as slow, because like I have remorse after leaving her apartment after talking and hanging out with her. I have always been a cuddler, and that is how I want to be, not like in bed for sex or anything of that manner but closeness, and like all of my relations with people I am extremely protective over her. I need some information about slow relationship and what to do. I have looked at many sites that are supposed to help with this but they are mainly coming from a girl's perspective, but I am a guy, and I need some advice.
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Ditto...ask her. I don't know what her ideas of taking something slow is. She may be interpreting some of your actions or words differently than what you mean by them and it could simply be how she interprets it all that has her concerned. Often this happens early in a relationship where two people don't really know or understand each other well yet. Thats why its important to communicate. Its also important at any point is a relationship but especially in the beginning until you start to understand each other better.
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ASK HER.
We can't read her mind. Frankly, it could be your attitude as a 'protector' that she is not enjoying. She might find it insulting or belittling, or that you are expressing too much ownership over her. When a guy gets too 'protective' of me very quickly, I see that as a warning sign that he might be controlling or disrespectful of my ability to make my own choices.
Or maybe it's something else. We can't know. Neither can you.
Ask her which parts of the relationship she is worried about going too fast at.
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