I'm a 15 year old girl, and everyday I am depressed. It's not actual severe depression but. Anyway, I have big dreams of becoming a singer. But I suck at singing. I wanted to get training but my parents can't afford it (online lessons are bad). I'm not doing so well in school either, even though I truly do try really hard. When I turn 18, I don't want to go to college because I know it isn't for me. I want to sing. That's literally the only thing I want to do. And I won't change my mind about it. Music is the only way I express myself. However, I suck so I don't know where to go if not college. I have NO self confidence, at all. I don't believe a guy will ever actually like me. I consider myself ugly and I'm just a failure at life I don't even see the point of me being on this Earth anymore. I'm not proud of anything that I do, no one else is proud of me either. My parents wish I was a "better" child with better grades and with a "better" attitude. I literally feel like I don't belong anywhere, and I feel like I am not capable of achieving anything due to my suckiness and untalentedness (< that's a word now).
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Miscellaneous category? Maybe give some free advice about: Doesn't Fit Any Of These Categories? MeliaAdvisor answered Wednesday December 2 2015, 2:16 am: I understand how you feel.Having to deal with depression can be hard but it will get better.And even if you don't sound great in singing,that doesn't mean you should give up.And don't stress where you want to go when you are 18.I mean,when you're 15 you haven't reached the stage where you have to support your whole family and immediatly get a job.Talk to your parents about how you feel,why you love singing so much and you want music to be in your future.It's okay if you think your grades aren't good at all.But that doesn't mean you aren't smart and forever won't get it.Everyone can be a singer if you have the patience and practice and determination.This things happen but you would be brave to take them on and tell yourself this is happening,it's reality but you know you are smart and brave enough to do it.Have more self-confidence and remember that everyone/thing has a strong beauty inside of them.Embrace it and you will find you are smart,beautiful and talented,just being you! [ MeliaAdvisor's advice column | Ask MeliaAdvisor A Question ]
Dragonflymagic answered Monday November 30 2015, 8:18 pm: Sounds like the depression is holding you back from a lot in life. If you ever get to the point where you are sick and tired of living with depression, let me know and I can at least point you in a direction to try what is very successful with others who've suffered either depression or anxieties or both. The methods I talk of, cured my social anxieties. You don't have to live like this but you have to be soooo ready and willing to do anything to get over it and healed.
As to what you can do right now to take care of this urge and want to sing, it can be done in venues online if you have a good enough lap top or desk top computer. There are a few different placdes but the one I am familiar with is called 'Second Life'. People can do anything in there that can be done in real life like singing ink a kareoke bar. There are clubs looking for singers or start as a host helping the owner of clubs and get paid in game money called lindens and spend it on purchasing your wardrobe other than what you can find for free, paying rent for a piece of
land which you lose is not paid up for the next week or month. Thats incentive to keep working inside the game. Most people with money spend it in the game just to have fun, driving a boat, windsailing, going dancing, finding romance, you name it. I have heard the singers on line in SL and they range from extremely talented but retired real life singers to those who have never had lessons and don't sing professionally. This is a place where people can realize their dreams even if it may not be currently possible in real life like a wheel chair bound young person being able to dance, run a race or whatever. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
Lisette77 answered Monday November 30 2015, 12:17 am: Sorry to hear your life sucks... but here is some good news, its only temporary!
you want to sing, well dont let anything get in your way!!
While you are in school take advantage of all the free training while you can. Maybe there is a chorus class or musical theatre group you can join.
Some towns have local singing groups and musical theatre groups and they are usually free.
See where this takes you. Once you start doing what you love every thing will fall into place. You can also practice on your own. Practice singing and dont start out by worrying about how you sound worry about how it makes you feel and let it all out. Then start recording your voice and work on tweaking your sound.
I obviously have not heard you voice to know whether you are good or not but I do know that you have a passion inside of you for singing and its there for a reason so go with it.
Following your passion will make you a better person and you will feel,so much better about yourself!
Dont you get the most amazing feeling when you sing! I can relate I am a singer too 😊
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