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In my second semester, starting in about 2 weeks, I have one class, Gr 12 Physics, in which I have no friends. I'm not exaggerating, even a little bit.

I am an introvert with limited social circles, and I hate talking to people I don't know very well. I have 4 girls I hang out with ALL the time. They are my BFFs. I also have about 10 other people that I am comfortable talking to(this includes about 8 girls and 2 guys). Also, I am kind of known as a nerd at my school, so other than the 14 people listed above, there are only a select few, very outgoing and friendly, people who ever talk to me, and I will never initiate conversation with them. I feel particularly awkward in any social situation involving guys.

Anyway, back to my problem. My Physics class consists of me, one other girl, and 10 guys. None of these people fit into any of the three categories listed above. The girl is nice enough, but she is good friends with 5 of the guys in the class, so it's not too likely she'll want to talk to me. Some of the guys are also relatively nice, but they are the kind of people who only really talk to me if they want to compare answers to a practice question that their friends haven't finished yet.

My biggest concern is that we are going to have to pick lab partners, and I hate that because basically everyone picks their favourite person in the room, and every body in the class has someone in the room they like better than me. There is an even number of people in the class, but it just feels ...idk...disheartening to know that you are someone's only option.

Also, I don't really get physics, and I like having someone to help me understand the concepts and whatnot, and to compare homework answers with.

I guess what I am asking is what should I do? How do I make it through the semester without going insane out of loneliness? Please don't tell me to make friends with someone in the class, that's not possible for me to do at this point. I just want some advice on how to get through a semester of being the odd one out, the lonely nerd in the corner.... (link)
Okay so I get you and you feel.First of all, relax.Try to relax and let the tense in you flow out.Try to close your eyes and imagine it all squashed into a tiny chocked round ball with a mixture of angry colours.What you do is to start imaginging imaginary hands and squishing the ball in your mind.Let it get smaller and smaller until it dissapears,right there,in your hand.Even if your a introvert,that doesnt me no friends to you! Of course you can make tons of friends but not in the extrovert style.Start with finding introverts in the class or any other class,for that matter.Find people like you and yes,you do have to talk to at least one of them at some point! Well,not immediatly.Let yourself have at least 5-7 days of relaxing and letting go before trying to talk to 1 person you dont know in that class.That will be your goal for that month.Simple,right? Oh and about that lab partner...he's acting like that because he is like that.He's just like you,an introvert.Be friendly because you feel just like him.And be friendly but in your own way and not in someone else's.


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I'm usuallyA good kidI do my homework I aced my test and I do what I'm told. I've been recently hating who I am though. I hate how I'm a good kid and how I sometimes do crazy things with my best friend. I hate how i feel fat and annoying. I tried not eating, and when I barely lasted 6 hours I just started exceeding more. I feel like some poeple think I'm weird or a try hard or a teachers pet. I hate how the boy I like sees me only as a friend - and it's not the dating I'm after, it's the fact that someone likes me. Ive been obsessing over how so and so wouldn't have done the stupid thing I just did or so and so would've said a funny remark instead of nodding their head. And I keep hearing how you should be someone you admire. I admire brave, gutsy, smart, and funny people like the ones I read in all my favorite books( throne of glass, mortal instruments, divergent) so I decided I would do something they would do.
Yesterday my history teacher did an activity to make it feel like we were in the time period we were learning about-1800 factory workers and industrial revolution. We had a substitute that day and when we walked in she started yelling at us to color the picture in front of us fast and neat. Within 5 min we figured out that our history teacher was trying to make it like how it was back then in the factories . Thinking that we were supposed to rebel bc of the protesting part of it and the fact that the switch class told us to not do what the substitute told us to do, I told the substitute that I didn't think it was right. She told me to go to the office then. By that time I was scared, I mean didn't the other class say we were supposed to do this? Anyways I came back from the office and was about to explain how I thought we were supposed to protest like the workers did, the substitute got the other teachers involved. So my other teacher walked in started saying how he was so disappointed we couldn't just appreciate the activity and do what we were told. Then the entire class explained to the substitute that we weren't trying to be disrespectful, we just did what the other class told us to do that was in her class previously. By then , I realized what I got myself in to . I apologized over and over again and tried to explain but this woman was like "well you have into peer pressure " ok so that was yesterday. Today I came in and my real history teacher was angry. And sad. My friend Bianca told be that in the morning she saw her tearing up bc she was so sad she put so much work into that lesson and that my class ruined it. She also heard the substitute(who's involved in the play I'm in) say that I was "trying to act like in the play" or something. The other teachers also were saying that they couldn't believe that a student did something so disrespectful. Then when we came into class I apologized and she said "go sit down" so I didn't get to explain. Then she told us that because of our actions we had to write a 6 paragraph essay that was due by the end of school about some guy who invented the cotton gin. At lunch I came in and sort of explained it but she still said I'm so disappointed and all this other stuff. The entire class hates me now, even though they're telling me it's not my fault I see they hate me for it. And my favorite history teacher now hates me too.
The whole thing stemmed from me trying to be someone other people would like and admire and even then I messed up. My dad is also going through cancer rn so I feel randomly depressed at school bc of it and I want to cry but then ik people will think I'm overreacting.
I always do my hair(somewhat) and put together outfits in hope it will solve my problems. It doesn't. Having good hair doesn't change what's going on no matter how much I wish it does. I'm now dreading to go to achool. I stopped answering questions in her class and participating. Now I'm comparing myself to other girls in my class who would've never done that and aren't stupid like me.
Please don't give me the typical mom advice. I need something that I can actually do that might stop the guilt in my chest from exploding and the way that I avoid talking to some people bc Im starting think they hate me for what I did. (link)
Okay Im going to go ahead and say this: "Girl,you need to pull yourself together and relax!" I understand that in these times its hard and depressing but dont forget there is always someone there to back you up.Based on what you said,let me tell you,you must be the most beautiful person ever! Why? Well because the most beautiful people are the people who dont know they are beautiful. Stop drowning yourself in those negative thoughts and put some light into them.Dont get all sad because of an incident like this! Its not your fault and you know it.Getting back up is what counts.Take a deep breath and walk the halls like you own it! You deserved it.Be confident and know that you are special and beautiful inside and out. When its better you will see you dont have to be like those other girls. Being normal is overrated! Be special.Im sure it will turn out fine!:)


Alright, so this is something I have been dealing with internally for a couple weeks now. But I suppose the advice i'm looking for requires a bit of set-up.

Right now, I am in college and recently entered my first relationship. Recently as in "this past week" to clarify. We live about 2 hours from each other but we live and attend at the same college when the term/semester is ongoing. We met the second-to-last week of the semester and we hit it off. It came to a surprise to me because it was unexpected and unintentional, as things escalated in only a few days.

However, there is another girl. We aren't dating, we are just good friends. I think it's clear to both of us that while we are good friends, we also have a strong interest in each other that hasn't been said...because the distance between us is two timezones apart. We've known each other for a few years and the past year we have getting to know each other more intimately without entering a romantic relationship.


I've realized that while i'm dating this girl close to me, who is very interested in me, I am more interested in the girl far away. I know distance-wise it's smarter to deal with it and focus on the girl right by me...but I can't help feeling like i'm being half-hearted in this new relationship. The other girl is important to me whether or not we ever date.

I just don't know how I should handle these feelings. Any thoughts?

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In this situations, I agree with you, it's tough.But as the old saying goes, "Follow your heart.It will guide you." And its quite true.Feelings are a sensitive state.You cant switch them on and off but you cant keep lying to yourself either.Dont be attracted to the girls just because you dont want to hurt their feelings.Being yourself is what matters most.I will support you in whatever choice and coming from a girl, I think that even when you choose the other one, she will understand. Good luck!


I can't stand my life anymore I'm so depressed. I feel like my family hates me and everyone else hates me I just don't feel loved at all. Because of this I I ran away from home but then got caught and I'm annoyed about that because I just wanted to get away from my life and start over but now im back to where I started.. Me and this guy we were so close to dating but then suddenly he just friend zoned me and it really hurt my feelings coz he made me feel special and good about my self and was the only thing that made me happy in my life now I have nothing , I havnt gone a night with out crying my self to sleep somtimes I feel like I'm better of dead but I'm scared of death so I could t do that

How can I make my self happy (link)
First of all,motivation and belief.When you don't feel loved,remember that no matter what happens,someone is going to cry if you hurt yourself and will always love you.You are not made in this world to be someone who is not loved and respected.I respect you alot because you are tough and made it through that much and I think that if you feel bad that this guy didn't date you,it's his loss.Not yours.You can accomplish great in life.Remember that.When you ever feel depressed,look into a mirror and repeat this line 3 times, "I am beautiful,important and special.Iam respected and tough and loved.I am someone who won't give up and won't be beaten down."This are all your own thoughts about them hating you but you should asked your family and friends what do they really think about you.No one is useless and undeserving in this world.Don't fool yourself and force yourself into thinking that everyone hates you.But I can tell you I don't and no,you're defintely NOT better off dead!


I'm a 15 year old girl, and everyday I am depressed. It's not actual severe depression but. Anyway, I have big dreams of becoming a singer. But I suck at singing. I wanted to get training but my parents can't afford it (online lessons are bad). I'm not doing so well in school either, even though I truly do try really hard. When I turn 18, I don't want to go to college because I know it isn't for me. I want to sing. That's literally the only thing I want to do. And I won't change my mind about it. Music is the only way I express myself. However, I suck so I don't know where to go if not college. I have NO self confidence, at all. I don't believe a guy will ever actually like me. I consider myself ugly and I'm just a failure at life I don't even see the point of me being on this Earth anymore. I'm not proud of anything that I do, no one else is proud of me either. My parents wish I was a "better" child with better grades and with a "better" attitude. I literally feel like I don't belong anywhere, and I feel like I am not capable of achieving anything due to my suckiness and untalentedness (< that's a word now). (link)
I understand how you feel.Having to deal with depression can be hard but it will get better.And even if you don't sound great in singing,that doesn't mean you should give up.And don't stress where you want to go when you are 18.I mean,when you're 15 you haven't reached the stage where you have to support your whole family and immediatly get a job.Talk to your parents about how you feel,why you love singing so much and you want music to be in your future.It's okay if you think your grades aren't good at all.But that doesn't mean you aren't smart and forever won't get it.Everyone can be a singer if you have the patience and practice and determination.This things happen but you would be brave to take them on and tell yourself this is happening,it's reality but you know you are smart and brave enough to do it.Have more self-confidence and remember that everyone/thing has a strong beauty inside of them.Embrace it and you will find you are smart,beautiful and talented,just being you!




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