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Friend Trouble
Hi. I'm having some friend trouble. I am 13 and a girl. My best friend Kelsey does not seem to be trying to stay in this friendship. She doesn't even talk to me at school and she ditches me for another girl. My good friend Veronica and her best friend Isabella have been through the same thing with Kelsey. She gets very close and then completely ditches. She has been my best friend for 9 years and I love her, but he doesn't seem to want to be best friends anymore. I have said some bad things about her to Veronica and Isabella which I regret, but I still meant them. Whenever I get angry or upset about our relationship to her she apologises and gives the excuse of her anxiety and OCD. I have both of these too, so I don't understand why this is her excuse. She always apologises, but still doesn't seem to want to be best friends with me.
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Some people grow apart, that's completely natural, maybe you and your friend have grown apart. However, some people have more severe cases of anxiety which causes them to push everyone away and if she is pushing everyone away then anxiety and OCD may not just be an excuse. It doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you, maybe she just needs time to deal with what she is going through. Maybe she needs you more than ever right now and is struggling, but she pushes you away out of habit - that's common with a lot of anxiety sufferers! Please don't assume she doesn't care about you or that she doesn't want to be friends, different people deal with stress in different ways and she seems to push people away. If she wants to be friends then she will come back into your life, but after nine years, what would cause her to not want to be friends any more? Maybe you just grew apart, it happens to all friends at one point in their friendship. Talk to her about this, and I don't mean yell at her, I mean sit down and have a real conversation with her about how this is making you feel, get to the bottom of this and see what she wants to do.
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