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I think I hate boys now
I'm seriously done with boys at this point in my life , every single boy Ik is a fuck boy
What I mean by this is that boys think it's cool to cheat on girls like they will brag about it to there friends like its somthing to be proud of . I'm annoyed and scared that I will never be able to find a buff, cute , loyal guy that I can be happy with 😔
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You did say 'boys' not 'men' so my guess is that it is due to their age, immaturity. Young males are more interested in sex than a real relationship. Their sexual urges at puberty are like a new toy received at Christmas and they want to play with it but they think they need a partner to play. Boys also worry about not being 'cool' for their buddies so if one starts bragging about having experienced sex with a girl, even if its not true, others will feel something is wrong with them and so make up stories of who they supposedly had sex with. During their 20s and sometimes into 30s, males are ready to date and have a relationship but want the sex with it, just not a long term or lifetime commitment yet. I won't say its all men, there are many exceptions to the rule but in general, this is what you'll find. Concentrate on school. For the reasons you mentioned, I talked to all my daughters about this before they started HS and told them to observe the girls who were popular and dated and broke up over and over, and what it did to their grades, my daughters reported back they didn't want to even start to get messed up in that crap. I told them if they could wait until they graduated HS, before dating and sex, it increased their chances of finding someone plus they'd be older and wiser. However not until mid 20s has the good judgement making part of our brain finished growing and maturing. So even choices in dating partners when in early 20s, may be rocky, just beware of that. I'd say that once past 25 or so, your chances to finding someone increase greatly. I wouldn't worry about it right now unless you are a much older female. In that case, there may be something you are doing wrong in how you go about choosing guys unless you wait around for guys to choose you which often is the problem.
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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. You don't hate boys, you're just having a hard time believing there are any nice ones out there, it's completely normal to think that when you have a bad past with them. However, it's important that you know that not every boy is like that, one day a man will come into your life who will be cute and loyal - just the guy that you want! It's easy to assume they are all the same, but that's only the guys you know, they probably haven't matured yet. You never know who you could meet randomly when you least expect it. You will find someone someday and you will be happy; unfortunately, you have to go through a lot of heartbreak until you find the right person, but it's worth it when you meet that one guy. Forget about relationships for a while, focus on friends and family, if a boy does come alone, great! But don't make your entire life about finding love and being happy in a relationship, because even though it is great to be happy with someone, it's not worth spending your life worrying about it. It will happen when it's meant to happen. Enjoy life and live in the present instead of the future. Go out with friends and have fun! Forget about boys for a while and just get on with your life, there are more important things. Good luck.
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