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Why did I get rejected?
So I was at a robotics competition (I know it's nerdy) and a team chose us as an ally and we competed and ended up with 2nd place. Anyway the team captain was really nice and funny and smart so I kinda had a crush on him. We're both captains so we got a lot of time to talk and hang out that day. When I thought his team lefti decided to tell my friends that were also on my team but that was a mistake. It turns out he was still ther and they were like "we're gonna tell him!" So they did I was terrified to death and I literally stood frozen behind a fake plant as they told him. His reaction was that he lifted up his head from what he was doing and just walked way. It's really his reaction that bothers me. What's wrong with me? Am I not good enough? He lives an hour away so it really wouldn't have worked but why did he reject me? It's just been bugging me tbh. Any help?
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I'm sure the reason this boy reacted like that isn't because of what you think. The way your friends told him may have come across to him as your friends being silly. He likely just walked away because he thought "oh they're probably just messing around with me and being immature". If he is put off by anyone it's probably your friends, not you! Hope this helped!
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For me personally, if someone felt they had to pass messages to me, whether they are the gossiper or the one who isn't brave enough to speak to my face in person, I am turned off by it. More than half the time, when info is passed on, it tends to get muddled, misinterpreted or a totally different twist on it or the opposite of what was originally said. So I tend to not pay any attention to it.
I would say this young man, if he has the same feelings as I do about gossip or passing on messages from you, that he is very intelligent to pay it no mind.
Your reaction to how things played out make it clear that you are either very shy, have social anxiety, lack self confidence, or just have plain fear about things, situations or guys you don't really know well but are interested in. Luckily, there's ways to get past and over all that.
You can be confident and get over fear to talk to a guy yourself. Right now, the two of you have something in common so theres a good place to start with naturally. If you really want to get over your fear, anxiety, and gain self confidence, let me know.
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