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I may be falling for a friendly face
Hey guys, 18, bi
I recently began attending university. New people, new atmosphere and all that good stuff. Among the people I've met, there is one girl who has caught my attention. She's beautiful, yes, but more than that. She's creative, funny, intelligent, witty, sarcastic, full of goals and very determined. Every time we talk, my stomach gets butterflies and I feel like it's just us even when we're surrounded (let the cliches begin). Anyhow, she's been messaging me out of university to talk about the most random things ever, (TV shows, her favorite movies, etc.) and I feel like sometimes she tends to cross the line of friendly. The other day she was having a tough time and said, "I was having a bad day and needed that laugh. I hate the world except for you" and when I mull it over I think I'm just making this up in my head. I don't mind crushing on her in silence, because I'm scared of the negative feelings of rejection so I guess, I just wanted some advice on how to go about this? My plan was to just go with the flow, and let it happen as it will.
Thanks for any advice guys!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Letting it happen naturally is the best policy to avoid scaring a person off if they don't feel the same.
You can be sly and bring up the topic of her sexual preferance but just don't make it the opening question in a conversation. WHile the two of you are already having a convo, try to use statement to steer the convo in the direction you want so you can gain the info you want. You choose the statements you want then followed by the question. Here's an example. "Hey what do you think of that guy Nick in our chemistry class? Do you think he's hot looking? Would you go out with someone like that?" She makes her response of yes or no and no matter the answer, if no "Why not. Are you lesbian or bi?" Or she says he's not her taste, then boldly ask what her taste would be for a date. If she says yes, you could simply state, "Great. No matter how cute he is, he's not my tastes." Leave it to her to ask you what your tastes are and then you coould mention you are bi, and what types of women or men you are attracted to. Thats an easy point at which to say, in women, I am attracted to gals like you. If she doesn't ask, you might have to try on another occasion, maybe making it a bit more obvious of pointing out a girl you think is hot looking. Then in the next s tatement, oh that guy over there is hot looking too, then choose another gal to point out and say how attractive she is to you. I think she'll figure it out that you are bi. If she starts asking, then you can ask what her preferances are or if she's even ever been bi curious and whether she'd be willing to explore that with you. You have to be patient and lead the convo without it appeared totally orchestrated.
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