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I dont know if ive cheated?
Hey, so basically, I'm a guy and ive got this friend who I a girl. We were both talking about like sex and stuff, and what it would be like and she gave me a blow job. I didnt do anything to her, at all, but now I dont know if I've cheated on my girlfriend, even though I didnt do anything, only my friend did something...
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Yes, it's cheating. If you can't have female friends without exercising your willpower to keep your willy in your pants, then you are not ready to make a commitment to any one girl to be her boyfriend because if you have no self control and no wish to choose to use it, then its best to not be in a commited relationship.
For the record, whether the sex is mutual, or one sided with the male giving only to the female or vice versa, it is still sex. Even the things of foreplay and attraction are cheating already, like touching in certain intimate places, kissing, holding hands, long intimate close hugs and cuddling. I really should have to spell it out. But if BEFORE engaging in anything, you are not quite sure if it would be okay or not, then don't do it at all. try to use the trick of putting yourself in the other persons shoes. Lets say your girlfriend was seen kissing a guy, would you be upset, how about if she 'only' gave him head and he never gave her oral, fingered or had penis in vagina sex. If it was only a blow job, would you be upset and feel she has cheated?
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If you were a willing participant, meaning she didn't hold a gun to your head, then you did cheat on your girlfriend. It is the same thing as if you gave her oral sex but she did not return the oral sex to you. You actively participated in a sex act with someone other than your current girlfriend. This is cheating.
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Unless you were passed out and/or she forced herself on you, and therefore sexually assaulted you... then you had a willing, sexual contact with another person. So that is cheating. That is a betrayal.
Your girlfriend almost certainly has a very normal and fair expectation that you would not have sexual contact with someone else.
You had sexual contact with someone else. Willingly. You choose it. You were a full and equal participant in this. You didn't just 'receive' a blow job, you choose to have sexual contact with someone who isn't your girlfriend.
Don't be an asshole. If you don't want to be loyal to your girlfriend, admit it and end the relationship, but don't pretend you 'didn't do anything'. Unless you were sexually assaulted by this other girl, than you did do something. You consented. You agreed to sexual contact with another person. That is cheating.
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