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totally need help
I have a friend who sits at our table in middle school but she takes my friend away and I get pissed and now I barely hang out with her I found out a day ago that the friend thinks that my enemy is mad at her and she takes to much time with my friends and I tell her that my enemy isn't mad at her but she says that she is mad at her and I think that she just wants to take away my friends I really need to knw wat to do please i need help or else i could even strangle her what should i do
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I understand that you probably feel quite left out and as if you are losing your friend. I know this may seem hard, but try to join your friend and the other girl. Maybe ask them both to come and do something after school together. Though you may not want to, just try to have fun with them both.
Once you have done that, and if you still feel as if you are losing your friend to your other friend, try talking to the girl who you feel is taking your friend away, and tell her that you feel a bit left out and you would appreciate it if you were included a bit more.
I know you'd probably rather the other girl just not be friends with your friend, but you shouldn't really interfere with their friendship. I think, as I have felt your way before, the best thing to do in that situation is to just try to be friends with your friend and the girl who you feel is taking your friend away.
Good luck!
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Since both are named friend in here, I kinda got lost as to who was who. I will give names and then an answer. LEts say Anna is the friend who takes away Teresa. If this is seating in a classroom, either its assigned seat by a teacher in which case you have no control over where Anna or Teresa sit, or its a first come basis and whoever gets there first gets choice of seat. Unless you are speaking of a table at lunchtime. Again, its whoever gets there first type thing. Now if Teresa is sitting with you and Anna invites her to come sit with her elsewhere, ignoring you and Teresa goes, several things could be going on. Its possible to have more than one close/best friend so it need not be competition for one position amongst you girls. And they need to realize that too I don't know if you have even tried talking to both about how it makes you feel. Don't bring it up using you statements like "You make me angry when you invite Teresa away and ignore me." Use 'I-me' statements like "I feel lonely and ignored Anna when you come take Teresa away, and Teresa, I start to feel rejected and lonely when you leave with Anna. Don't assume that both of them realize how you feel. When we are young, we are mostly thinking of ourselves and our own small world and not thinking much about what impact our actions have on others. If it turns out that neither one cares and things don't change to include you, then neither of those two girls deserve the title of being your 'friend' because friends don't treat friends that way. You can find people who respect you and treat you much better than that.
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