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Being with woman for the first time with husband
I would like to know how to bring and please another woman for the first time with my husband?
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I ditto everything adviceman said. I have some past history attending swing club with my ex. We were mismatched sexually so attending did not fix our sex life. However, it did teach me some things I didn't know about myself sexually and helped me discover what I really wanted and what I lacking in my marriage.
I never liked more than one working with me at a time as I found input from an extra person to be distracting. Everyone is different so you may be able to do it, or after trying find you don't like it so much. But thats okay, its part of exploring sexually, as long as all the adults involved, are willing and not one dragging their feet or pestered and cajoled into doing this.
What I am not clear on is if you mean to have sex with a woman for your husband to only watch and not get involved in any other way, or if you meant both of you would be working on this other female. If he is turned on by watching, then just ask her what she likes. Kissing and massaging, sensual touch is all the same as doing so for your husband. If you want to try giving oral sex to a female. you are one so you already know some things to try and you may have it easier to sense when something you are doing is getting results in her, thats what I found the one time I tried it for curiousity sake and she orgasmed. It was a good feeling to know I could do that, something that some men either don't like to do or have great difficulty doing. Keep in mind that even if a 3 some and he is part of the giving and receiving sexually that you all agreed on, sometimes the smallest thing can trigger a negative thought in you and most often a comparing. Let me explain. OUr first time swapping in same room with another married couple, I made sounds with the other guy I never did with my husband and when he heard it, he remained flaccid and couldn't get it up. He was comparing himself and felt he was lacking in ability in some way cus now he couldn't call me frigid or put the blame on me. The fact was, he was perfect for someone else, just not me. So as adviceman said, be sure your sexual relationship is solid and healthy with hubby and the marriage a great one or it won't work for one of you or both of you. The worst case scenerio is you never do this again but now have trust or hurt or comparison issues between you and need to go for counseling to set your heads straight. Exploring this is not wrong, but a great many who are very mature responsible adults who think they can handle it, freeze up the moment they see their partner seeming to enjoy more on one aspect than with you and that kills it for you. It goes both ways, you too could find a man whose tongue seems to bring you orgasm faster than your husband. But your husband is better at fingering. Embrace the differences, don't compare differences as meaning one is lacking, but just different. Life is full of differences from the choices of foods, clothing styles, colors, to types of vegetation and flowers, etc.
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This is not an easy question to answer without delving into your sex life with your husband. What I will say is this.
Having a threesome may sound exciting or maybe your doing so to please your husband. Maybe you are looking satisfy a fantasy he has as many men have them or you think this may be a way to spice up your marriage. Before you do so stop and think about it. Group sex is not a way to repair a sex life or a marriage that may be on the rocks. There are times a fantasy is better left a fantasy.
Is the women a friend or a stranger. Would you be more comfortable if the woman was a stranger to both of you or a friend of one or both of you. This is another question to answer. Would your husband be more comfortable with a friend or a stranger or someone you both know.
If you do go through with this then I suggest you and the other lady discuss what and how you are going to do things. Find out her likes, dislikes and no-no's. Have a plane as to what and how don't wing it. Let her know what your husband likes and if this is his fantasy just what his fantasy is.
My suggestion is that you do not do this for the majority of the time it turns out bad. Then we end up with questions on where did we/I go wrong and how do we/I repair this.
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