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What should I do about my college situation (picking between two)?
Long story short, I'm transferring to a new college and city in January.
The first one, I've already gotten accepted to and paid the dorm deposit on ($500). It's a really beautiful school and in an area that I'm familiar with, BUT it's missing one major component that's really important to me, there's NO Greek life. One of the major reasons I want to transfer colleges is to try and rush for a sorority. Since I've moved around a lot in my life I've never been able to make a solid set of friends so joining a sisterhood is a big goal of mine and I know I can make it in.
The second one I've talked to the counselor and she told me as long as I complete my current classes before Jan 13th that I'll be accepted and she'll hold a dorm room for me. My issue with this is that my parents are NOT buying that at all. They don't believe the counselor when she says she'll make sure she hold a dorm for me or that she'll be able to rush all my paperwork through in late December and get me accepted by January 13th. They think she's going to forget and let in a bunch of other people who already have those credits completed and then not have room for me.
This school isn't as pretty but it's big on Greek life and has everything else I need/want and it's the school I really want to go too.
One of my parents isn't paying a dime for anything (she refuses to pay anything) and the other probably won't either because he just doesn't have the money so I feel like it's not really their choice, but I see where they're coming from and it's a concern for me too.
Another big issue is school one wants me to set my schedule by November 15th. Once I set my schedule I'm pretty much saying "Yeah I'm going here" but I don't want to do that and then last minute in January tell them "Sorry I'm going somewhere else".
I see this as risky because I don't want to withdraw from school one without knowing for sure that school two will come through on their promise.
I asked school two's counselor if there was anyway she could go ahead and accept me on a contingency that I complete my current classes (at my current school), but she said no I just have to wait to send in final grades after I'm done with the classes and then she'll accept me.
What do I do?
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There is an old saying, "A Bird in Hand is Worth Two in the Bush". Meaning go with what you know, with what you have rather than betting on what really is an unknown. If school 2 cannot commit further than what they have then it is an unknown and any number of things can cause it to fall through.
It is great that the counselor says she will hold space for you. Does she have the authority to do so? Maybe she does and maybe she does not. When you spoke to her the school may have had plenty of openings that she could make that kind of statement to you. Come the time you are ready to ask for your space she may not have the space available. If you have nothing in writing guaranteeing that space to you; then you're out in the cold.
The better alternative is to file for your classes with school 1 for the spring semester then file to transfer to school 2 for the fall semester. It may mean you may have to take one or two classes over again if the credits do not transfer. This is better than betting on something that is not guaranteed and ending up with no school to attend in this spring.
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