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Ex-Boyfriend Troubles. Please Help!!!
A year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend which is now my ex because I just didnt feel like being in a relationship yet. Now, a month ago I was invited to my friends birthday party. While I was there one of my best friends started talking about my ex and how he was a 'player' to all the people there(Got rejected 3 times). 2 months after the party, my ex texted me on how 'mean I was' because apparently I 'called him a player'. Then he ranted on why he agreed to break up and how 'bad' I was. He's nice and all but he just lashed out at me. What do I do?
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For some reason you take things too personally and that is not a good thing. You know the truth, you didnt say anything like that, your best friend did. How he heard that, doesn't matter. What matters is that he believes anything he hears without investigating further. He didn't ask you how the rumor got spread about did he? You didnt write that. Sounds like he made assumptions and accused you. A person in that mindset is believing they are 100% correct in their assumptions and their mind will be closed off to hearing any input to the opposite of what they believe. I lived with an ex like that. You can't say anything to make him think any differently of you. So let it go. What does it matter to defend yourself. What does that get you? You are not even in a relationship with him any longer. If you were dating, or engaged or married, it then is an issue that must be handled, for there needs to be great trust in each other and couple counseling needed. But in your case, you arent in a relationship, so ignore his call, his thoughts and his beliefs and accusations.
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Ignore it.
You didn't call him a player, someone else said it to you. He was embarrassed and angry. It sucks that he lashed out at you, but if you've had basically no other contact with him then just take a deep breath and let it go.
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What do you mean "what do i do?" here? ignore him and never talk to him again. You dont need someone like that in your life and you shouldnt even dignify what he says to you with a response.
Cut ties with his friends, youll make plenty of friends in your lifetime ok. The world isnt a small place.
sometimes i know there are people you like alot that are still connected with him and thats ok. But you may need to distance yourself from those people if they are reporting back to him about what your still doing these days or anything like that.
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