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Friend keeps calling my phone
Trust me she just calls me because she's bored and for someone who has a job she calls a lot as if she doesn't have work or something. She's far from a lesbian so she doesn't have any interests in me and I'm straight as well and she has other friends too her best friend even told me she calls her all the time too and she gets annoyed. Even when she texts me and screenshots something at the top of the screen shot it always shows that she's talking on the phone with someone, so it's not only me she calls 24/7 it's everyone, it's like once she's done one convo it's on to the next person on her contact list, it's as if her phone doesn't die. Today I personally sent her a photo of where I was to prove to her I wasn't home and busy and guess what? She called me and my mom told me to answer her, since obviously ignoring her calls don't work I answered her call and she tried talking as if I was at home and not at a family outing. Ugh I don't know what to do please help
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wow, well it sounds like she may have some issues herself that she doesnt want to deal with so she hyper focuses on everyone and everything ELSE to keep her mind off things she should be worrying about.
you shouldnt have to PROVE where you are or what your doing,your a person with your own life and theres no easy way out of this other than ignoring her out right. Your going to have to either just ignore her until she gives up or tell her straight up when your out with your family or doing something where you dont feel comfortable with talking to her that your busy and nows not the best time. Then later IM her and tell her on THERE so that no one has to see or hear you telling her that shes calling you way too much and she needs to chill out with that. You could say that you enjoy her company and you appreciate her friendship but that this is getting out of hand.
Having a person in your life that acts like that isnt going to end pretty at all. Theyll do anything to take over as much of your life as they can if your not willing to set down some boundaries. This is true of every relationship though not just this type. Theres going to be things in like that will make you have to step out of your comfort zone and deal with them but thats part of life and its part of growing into an adult and maturing.
Be NICE but firm, start with a compliment and THENNN ask why shes calls you so much and if something is wrong? if she says nothing is wrong then say something like "well with the rate you call me at all the time, you make me think something might be wrong" ((you could always come off as concerned)) maybe she might rethink her calling you so much.
What you could also do is not pickup the phone all day then call her later and ask her why she called you so many times in one day and act pissed about it. Maybe someone saying "ummmm why the hell did you call me like ten times today?? (then whatever her response is back) say "yeah but your doing this like EVERYDAY!!" i told you i had a thing going on and id be busy!"
then see what she has to say. you have the right to have feelings about things too. a friendship is a to way street so dont be afraid to speak up.
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