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Bi sexuality
I am 17 and I know that i am bi but how do i tell my family. i have already come out to my friends, but dont know how to come out to my family
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Before you decide on how to tell them first ask yourself these question.
This is who you are, your sexuality. Who in your family actually needs to know? Why do they need to know? Do you think it will change how they feel about you?
If telling your family that you are bisexual will change how they feel about you then they don't need to know. Your sexuality is who you are and much different than being gay. While there is nothing wrong with being gay; family members are much more apt to pick up on it than they would on being bi.
My thoughts are that if telling any member of your family you are bi then the rest of the family will learn of it eventually, this is almost a given. To me the over riding question is by informing your family of your sexuality change your relationship with them in any way. If the answer is yes then don't. Also you are still a minor and subject to parental rule which if your parents would not be accepting of your sexuality could make the time until your 18 very hard on every one especially you.
Once you have thought about the questions I have asked you to think about. If you decide that you must tell your family you start with your parents. Sit them down and tell it as it is. "Mom, dad I need for you to know this about me; I'm bisexual." Then shut your mouth and wait for their reaction.
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I guess the most straight forward way to do this would be to just tell them but I think one of the most important things to ask yourself first and foremost is how do you think they will react? Is your family open minded enough to be able to accept this news or would they completely flip? Your sexuality is your own business and not something anyone needs to know or accept as long as you are happy with it so I will say off the bat that if you believe that your family will flip at the news then just don't tell them unless a time comes when you really have to. I say this only because the last thing you need is hassle from your family about your sexuality especially if you are living with them - it could make things very awkward or difficult since some families are just not open to accept something like this.
If however you feel that your family would be open minded about this news and accept it (reluctantly or otherwise) then there's not really anything to worry about other than just how to break it to them in which case you could try talking to just one member of your family (mom, dad, sibling) instead of all of them at the same time. This way it will give you the chance to ease into the whole idea of coming out to your family and if/when you do tell the rest of your family you will know there's someone there who can stand by you to give some moral support because they already know about it. I mean depending on how you would want to go about it you could even have the person you told speak to the family on your behalf instead if that is easier? There are many ways to approach this but as I said, it all really depends on how you think your family will react to the news. If the reaction will be a bad one then you could always just postpone having to tell them just yet until you really have to.
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