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Am I Paranoid or is My Mom Being Strangely Overly Nice
I love my mom like crazy, more than anyone else in the world. She pretty much raised me herself and we get along great, but there are times when I can really piss her off. Although she's a wonderful person with a huge heart, she can be kind of a ball buster too. She treats me better than anyone else, until I piss her off and then she goes crazy on me. Please read this all, even though it's gonna be long and there might be times when you're like, "Alright, I get it." But I want to be thorough and not leave anything out that may be important.
Lately, she's seemed a little OVERLY nice, Which is great, but I'm worried about why she's being like that. There could be a number of reason, almost all of which are bad news. She tends to put off telling me terrible news for a while and she's always super nice to me between the time she finds out the bad news and the time she tells me about it. I heard her talking on the phone about a family friend of ours earlier. The friend AND his wife have cancer, so it could be about them. Our dogs are going to the vet tomorrow even though they just went, so there could be something wrong there. My Mustang that I love is in the shop getting a new wheel bearing and is taking way too long to get fixed. The last time that happened to a car of ours, it was because there were a ton of things wrong with it and we ended up not bothering to fix it. I highly doubt it's about that, but it could be.
A good example of her being overly nice would be tonight. We went to my granddad's house for dinner and my mom forgot the biscuits at our house. She asked me to go get them while she set the table and I was super annoyed art having to do so. I was kind of mean to her about it and when I got back to my granddad's house, I locked the keys in the car. It was an idiot move and she could have really torn into me, especially after the hard time I gave her, but she didn't. She was like, "Oh, it's okay. It's not your fault. It wouldn't have happened it I didn't forget the biscuits." We had to walk home and to make matters worse, earlier I was playing on the internet on HER phone while we were driving, so it's locked in the car too. Still, she's not giving me a hard time at all about it.
The reason I can't use my own phone is because it's been acting up lately. I need a new charger because I lost my old one and have been using my kindle charger for months because it fits, but it's not good for the phone. The guy at the Verizon store told me not to use anything but a BlackBerry charger on it or it will start acting up like it is now. As soon as I get another charger, it will stop, but I've avoided telling my mom because I was afraid she'd be pissed that I lost the old charger. Tonight, (before I locked the keys in the car) she was like, "Where's your phone? I tried to call you when you were out. I needed something from the store." I decided it was time to tell her about the charger and she was like, "Oh, that's okay, I'll buy you a new charger."
Perhaps the biggest surprise was the way she reacted to some news I gave her recently. I'm kind of in a relationship for the third time with this guy that my mom use to hate. The first relationship, tried and tried and tried to get her to like him,convinced that I could do it, but she was like, "No! He's a cheating manwhore. I don't like him." I didn't even tell her about the second relationship. Now that we're together again and she knows, she's like, "Oh, he's sweet, oh he's cute." And things like that.
Lastly, my birthday is September 7th and it's nit a big one. It's not a milestone or anything, but yet, my mom's like, "Hey sweetie, what do you want for your birthday that's not even THAT close? Do you want a computer or laptop that will be expensive as hell? Do you want to get all these ridiculous electronics installed in your Mustang? How do you want to take advantage of your mother's strange over-generosity?"
Does it sound like my mom's being overly nice for some reason or am I just being overly critical and unappreciative of the situation?
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Im gonna have to agree with the other poster here. She may very well have been thinking back on how she was earlier or the past couple days or something and thought to herself that she was being too mean and thought "ok i need to ease up a little here" and she did. Its not uncommon, and family members that care and really never give up on each other DO things like that. its called forgiveness.
The other possibility here is that shes too tired right now to be mean from whatever it is shes not telling you and/or realizes that theres no real point to being mean because its not going to get her or you anywhere so why bother. Also having other things on your mind can kind of make focusing on being mean to someone else a little lower on the list of priorities.......idk something to chew on i guess.
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One of the possibilities might be that your mom sensed she was being too harsh on you earlier on and decided to take a different approach by being nicer to you which ended up making her seem like "too nice". It might be that you are used to her strict manner that when she simply did something nice, you were surprised. I have a lot of friends who's moms are overly nice in my opinion but they think their mom is "all right" or "okay". It's just a matter of opinion. When I look at all the examples you've given about how you think your mom is being overly nice, they are things my mom does and I don't think of her as overly nice.
The point that is confusing you a lot is the change your mom went through, between "mean" (only when you piss her off) to "too nice". Since this seems like a situation which is confusing you a lot, I suggest talking to your mom. I know it sounds like it will be awkward but that looks like the only choice.
First, you could tell her a few changes you've noticed and give the examples you have given here. You can tell her how you worry if something bad happened and make sure she knows how badly you want to know. If she thinks this is the right time to reveal the news, she will but if she briefly says "it's nothing", this might imply two things. Maybe it's really nothing and she just decided to go easier on you. It might be that she worries that you will be really stressed about school/an activity or something else and she doesn't want to add any more pressure on you by being strict. The second thing might be that this has a deeper meaning. She might have bad news but she is not ready to tell you or something of that sort. If she says something along the lines of "it's nothing", you can push her a little further to let her know that you are ready to know the news but not too far. After a point, if she's still not telling you a bad news, then she was merely trying to be nicer to you. If you think this is the case, you can try being nicer to her too, so you don't seem unappreciative. Hope this helped.
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