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My group is two people who I'm really close with. I'm going to call my friends M and B. So me and M have sleepovers just the two of us, and M and B have sleepovers just the two of them. Recently B realized that we have never hung out/ had a sleepover just the two of us. So we had a sleepover and when M found out today about she got really pissed at us and hasn't talked to us since.... (link)
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Honestly, what M is doing is not fair to both of you. She had sleepovers with both of you separately and therefore doesn't have the right to get mad at you if you're having a sleepover without her. In this situation, I think M was feeling special because she hung out with both you and B separately and you and B never really hung out so she might have thought she was the better friend. When you and B had a sleepover however, M might have felt mad because she had lost her spotlight. It might sound unreasonable but this is probably what happened. I suggest talking to her and making sure you three only have sleepovers with all three of you so no one feels left out and you don't get stuck in such situations. Hope I helped!
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When I was little my aunt always gave me bracelets or some type of jewelry. I would always loose it though. Well for my 14th birthday she got me a necklace and it was super cute! And she told me to wear it everyday. But I play field hockey and we aren't allowed to wear jewlery so I took it off but now I can't find it and I'm pretty sure I've looked everywhere. And she hasn't had a chance to see it on me when I had it so whenever she sees me she'll ask where it is and I tell her it's at home (which I think it is I just don't know where). But anyways I don't know what to tell her. What should I do? (Btw I think it was a little pricey because she said it was real silver) (link)
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I think the best thing to do in this situation is to tell her the truth. If you are afraid she will lose trust in you, make sure she knows that next time you receive a gift from her, you will keep it safe. To do this, I suggest having a box for all your jewelry. I tend to lose a lot of jewelry myself, they are very easy to lose. When you know an event is coming up that will require you to take of your jewelry (such as a field hockey game), you can take off all your jewelry and safely store it in a box before the event. That way, you will never lose your jewelry.
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I love my mom like crazy, more than anyone else in the world. She pretty much raised me herself and we get along great, but there are times when I can really piss her off. Although she's a wonderful person with a huge heart, she can be kind of a ball buster too. She treats me better than anyone else, until I piss her off and then she goes crazy on me. Please read this all, even though it's gonna be long and there might be times when you're like, "Alright, I get it." But I want to be thorough and not leave anything out that may be important.
Lately, she's seemed a little OVERLY nice, Which is great, but I'm worried about why she's being like that. There could be a number of reason, almost all of which are bad news. She tends to put off telling me terrible news for a while and she's always super nice to me between the time she finds out the bad news and the time she tells me about it. I heard her talking on the phone about a family friend of ours earlier. The friend AND his wife have cancer, so it could be about them. Our dogs are going to the vet tomorrow even though they just went, so there could be something wrong there. My Mustang that I love is in the shop getting a new wheel bearing and is taking way too long to get fixed. The last time that happened to a car of ours, it was because there were a ton of things wrong with it and we ended up not bothering to fix it. I highly doubt it's about that, but it could be.
A good example of her being overly nice would be tonight. We went to my granddad's house for dinner and my mom forgot the biscuits at our house. She asked me to go get them while she set the table and I was super annoyed art having to do so. I was kind of mean to her about it and when I got back to my granddad's house, I locked the keys in the car. It was an idiot move and she could have really torn into me, especially after the hard time I gave her, but she didn't. She was like, "Oh, it's okay. It's not your fault. It wouldn't have happened it I didn't forget the biscuits." We had to walk home and to make matters worse, earlier I was playing on the internet on HER phone while we were driving, so it's locked in the car too. Still, she's not giving me a hard time at all about it.
The reason I can't use my own phone is because it's been acting up lately. I need a new charger because I lost my old one and have been using my kindle charger for months because it fits, but it's not good for the phone. The guy at the Verizon store told me not to use anything but a BlackBerry charger on it or it will start acting up like it is now. As soon as I get another charger, it will stop, but I've avoided telling my mom because I was afraid she'd be pissed that I lost the old charger. Tonight, (before I locked the keys in the car) she was like, "Where's your phone? I tried to call you when you were out. I needed something from the store." I decided it was time to tell her about the charger and she was like, "Oh, that's okay, I'll buy you a new charger."
Perhaps the biggest surprise was the way she reacted to some news I gave her recently. I'm kind of in a relationship for the third time with this guy that my mom use to hate. The first relationship, tried and tried and tried to get her to like him,convinced that I could do it, but she was like, "No! He's a cheating manwhore. I don't like him." I didn't even tell her about the second relationship. Now that we're together again and she knows, she's like, "Oh, he's sweet, oh he's cute." And things like that.
Lastly, my birthday is September 7th and it's nit a big one. It's not a milestone or anything, but yet, my mom's like, "Hey sweetie, what do you want for your birthday that's not even THAT close? Do you want a computer or laptop that will be expensive as hell? Do you want to get all these ridiculous electronics installed in your Mustang? How do you want to take advantage of your mother's strange over-generosity?"
Does it sound like my mom's being overly nice for some reason or am I just being overly critical and unappreciative of the situation? (link)
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One of the possibilities might be that your mom sensed she was being too harsh on you earlier on and decided to take a different approach by being nicer to you which ended up making her seem like "too nice". It might be that you are used to her strict manner that when she simply did something nice, you were surprised. I have a lot of friends who's moms are overly nice in my opinion but they think their mom is "all right" or "okay". It's just a matter of opinion. When I look at all the examples you've given about how you think your mom is being overly nice, they are things my mom does and I don't think of her as overly nice.
The point that is confusing you a lot is the change your mom went through, between "mean" (only when you piss her off) to "too nice". Since this seems like a situation which is confusing you a lot, I suggest talking to your mom. I know it sounds like it will be awkward but that looks like the only choice.
First, you could tell her a few changes you've noticed and give the examples you have given here. You can tell her how you worry if something bad happened and make sure she knows how badly you want to know. If she thinks this is the right time to reveal the news, she will but if she briefly says "it's nothing", this might imply two things. Maybe it's really nothing and she just decided to go easier on you. It might be that she worries that you will be really stressed about school/an activity or something else and she doesn't want to add any more pressure on you by being strict. The second thing might be that this has a deeper meaning. She might have bad news but she is not ready to tell you or something of that sort. If she says something along the lines of "it's nothing", you can push her a little further to let her know that you are ready to know the news but not too far. After a point, if she's still not telling you a bad news, then she was merely trying to be nicer to you. If you think this is the case, you can try being nicer to her too, so you don't seem unappreciative. Hope this helped.
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