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My Cousins Still Haven't Added Me to Facebook
I recently joined Facebook on Friday. Since joining I friend requested some of my cousins. Two of them added me, four if you want to count second and third cousins, but two others on my father’s side and one other on my mother’s side haven’t added me. I’m worried that I did something wrong. All of my aunts and uncles quickly added me as well.
I can’t think of what I could have done wrong though? Most of them I haven’t spoken to in years, since our grandmother passed away 2 years ago, but we’re still blood. My aunt’s ex-husband even added me. I know that we’re estranged, but that’s because I wasn’t on Facebook and had no real way of getting in touch with them. I’ve been wanting to get closer to my cousins for awhile now. One of them told me that he’s definitely up for that, and I have his phone number now, although he’s busy right now because he and his girlfriend are expecting their first child.
Should I ask them if something’s wrong. Am I looking too far into this? My best friend told me that maybe they just don’t use Facebook much, and that’s why they haven’t added me. One responded to one of her father’s photos for father’s day. I’m worried that she’s purposely avoiding me. I'd rather not get my other cousins into this by asking them what they all really think of me.
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You're over thinking this. I have family who use Facebook alot. Some who have accounts and get on sporadically but not consistantly like daily or a couple times a week. Then there are others who aren't on there at all.
In the past I've played lots of games thru FB, and some required having 'neighbors' who played the same game and none of my friends or relatives did. So I posted a request for friends for the game and also checked the Add Me page for the particular game and started sending messages to people who said they needed friends to help play the game with. I could easily send out a dozen requests. One answers the same day, another the next morning, another later that 2nd day, others through the next week, another 1 or 2 2 weeks later and 1 person always not responding til 1 or 2 months later and still adding me. Unfortunately someone like that Iam not going to see much from on facebook ever or really get game help from if they're on that seldom. I'v been on facebook since around 2006 I think. So I've seen alot.
Another thing you can expect is that those of family who have a lot of people on the FB acct as friends will have curious people who like them alot and so want to connect with their siblings and cousins, etc. I have gotten requests from people who were total strangers to me but knew a sister of mine or close mine of mine. I usually accept most after checking out their profile to make sure I'm not adding some weirdo.
You may also get lonely guys who scan the FB friends lists of people whose have accepted you as friend and send you a request to be a friend or actually send a message. I have gotten about 2 dozen men over the years either who were looking for a girlfriend on line only, or for a new wife in real life and sent a message to me. They find me by looking at lists of a friends, friends, friends list so that there is no connection to anyone I know. So do not blindly add someone until you check first their profile. The majority of such guys had a FB acct less than a month old or days old and the only people on their small friends list were only women, no family. These may be lonely men or men from foreign countries were its taboo to interact with any women other than your mother, sister or wife. So they ask to be your friend. I accidently accepted one such person and everytime I was on, they would instant message me and want to hold hour long or longer online chats with me. If I wanted a penpal, I would welcome that. But since I don't, I delete them the moment they become too invasive with my time. These are all the helps I can think of for someone new to FB.
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You need to let this go. If you can't accept that some of your family members - people you haven't spoken to in years - maybe don't want to be your friends on Facebook, then you aren't in a healthy place to be using Facebook.
I am friends with some of my family members on Facebook, but not all. We live different lives and some of us use Facebook in ways we don't want to come back and haunt us at the dinner table at Thanksgiving. Some don't use Facebook much at all.
You are looking into this way, way too much.
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